Author: Julia Keller

MY STORY

Hey you,

I’ve spent a lot of time sharing valuable dating insights with you and articles and stories of my clients. But as I constantly receive questions about me and how I came to do what I do, I thought that you too, who faithfully read my newsletter and/or blog every week, would also like to get to know me better. Hence, I’m sharing my story with you here. After all, it is only fair to reveal to you first the real reason behind why I became a Love Coach, and why I believe in Love, interdependence, and fulfilling, committed, monogamous relationships so much that I want to impact this belief on the world.

Once a upon a time there was a girl who hailed from one country to another, and once again from America to the United Kingdom. London turned out to be a lucky place and soon after she met her prince … only to realise that her fairy tale was taking a different turn…

But only by walking through greatest darkness can we find greatest light… Such was the case here as this woman once filled with one type of expectation then found another result far beyond what she’d ever expected, and a mission was born that continues to this day… You can read the rest of my story here  and if you want to know the story of pain, learning, and growth even deeper, you can find it in this revealing chronology of 20 brave women all sharing their personal love stories that Julia’s story is part of: the international Amazon bestseller “Love Unboxed”.

Read Julia's Chapter in this anthology

The time to take control of your love life is now!

If you’ve been single for a while, and you don’t want to be, you’ve
probably gone through several times of feeling lonely and unhappy
about your situation. In periods where couples out there are more
obvious than ever — such as certain holidays like Christmas, New
Year’s, and Valentine’s Day, or even during the warmer seasons — you
may feel even worse than usual.

Sometimes when the situation has you so frustrated, you may even
finally have enough urgency to change it to seek out the help of
experts out there. There are certainly many books about empowerment,
self love, dating rules, 10 steps to this and that, etc out there. And
yet you may have read many of them and still be in as bad a situation
as ever.

Like you, I also was once frustrated and feeling lonely, after my
divorce. At one point, I came to a point of such strong desire to
change that I took action to change my situation. I’d read many of
these books by that point, along with books on achieving whatever it
was that I desired in life. I began to use the skills I learned and
tried out one by one what the books and courses told me. Some worked
better than others and I began to see a pattern that led to success
and a pattern that led away from it. When I acted or thought in the
way that brought success, things improved. When I acted or thought in
a way that went against it, things got worse again. Soon, I’d realised
what exactly worked and I began to test it out on others who were in
the same situation as I’d been and who wanted my help and were happy
to have me experiment with them. Success came to them too and before
long, Coaching certificate and NLP studies in hand, I’d made Love
Coaching into my full-time career. In fact, things went so well that
my Love Coaching practice became more and more busy and I kept raising
prices regularly.

Because I saw that what I’d put together really worked, and I wanted
to help more people than I could in my One to One practice, I began
coaching groups and giving talks. But I still wanted to share what I’d
learned and what worked with more of the world. So I wrote a book
entitled “Attract Authentic Love” sharing my Authentic Love
methodology in as succinct a way as I could in a book written mainly
for women. Because so many men also bought my book, I decided to write
a book dedicated to helping men too (which I’m working on now). Many
of the women who read my book contacted me asking me for more help and
information. But my One to One Love Coaching practice could only take
so many clients, and I’d raised my prices a couple of times since
then. I also wanted to make this work accessible to all women — even
those who couldn’t afford my One to One coaching.

If you watched my interview with Ruth last week  (watch it here if you
haven’t already), you would have heard me mentioning the Self Study
Group that I am launching. I don’t want to give out too much yet, but
this program was created with women like you in mind in a grand first
attempt to make the Authentic Love methodology, that has seen such
amazing results with my clients, available to all women who want to
Attract Authentic Love into their lives.

Here is a small snippet from the program encompassing the overall
approach I have to coaching and especially to coaching intended to
loving yourself and finding a partner to share rest of your life with.

This program is particularly designed to bring that balance between
learning theory (and channeling in what you want in your life) and
practice (going out and getting it).

Btw most Mondays I stream live “10 minutes to femininity”, showing you
how it does not take long or much effort to delve into that femininity
that makes you more attractive to men. It’s a quick tip video about
all the different aspects of femininity, including interviews with
some experts. All brought to you live on Facebook on my page
@coachjuliakeller. Enjoy and let us know by your comments if there’s
anything specific that you’d like us to talk about.

Calling all lonely men out there!

Hey there!

While I’ve done some amazing work with helping women to find and
improve their love stories since I started Love Coaching, I initially
resisted taking on male clients. However, as my Love Coaching practice
kept growing, more and more men kept coming to me asking for help.
Initially, I began with accepting just a few male clients that begged
me for help, or that I saw could really use my advice to help them to
understand what women want and need better and how to find that love
they sought. After a while, however, more and more men began coming —
either by learning about me and my work through friends or by finding
me on google or at events I spoke at.

In fact, many men even bought my book on attracting love created with
women readers in mind, “Attract Authentic Love”. Such a significant
number of my books went to men, in fact, that I’m now working on a
version of the book specifically for men (out next year). I’ll also be
launching a group coaching program for men by Christmas (stay tuned
for more details on this). For now, however, I’ve opened up my One to
One coaching to accept certain male clients who meet certain specific
criteria (inquire here by booking a free 30 minute assessment call
with me).

Some of the male clients who have worked with me shared their
testimonials. You can read them on our website here
and we’ve also included some for you below as well.

For the women reading this, you may have a single male friend,
brother, father, uncle, etc that you believe would love to find love
but is lost as to what to do in this current dating minefield and how
to go about it. Have them book a free phone call with me on the link
above to find out if they’re suitable for my coaching.

“In a few short years the rules of dating had changed, and I no longer
had the rule book.  Julia has helped me understand just what those
rules are and just exactly what I need to do in order to attract the
sort of woman I want to be with long term; she has helped me
understand what a woman wants from a man and I have found that to be
invaluable “ Martin

“What I liked about Julia were her insights into human nature. You
could say that she has an old head on young shoulders! She explained
that with simple changes of approach in one’s behaviour, results can
follow. They did!”
Jeremy

“Julia is one of those rare women who has real observed insight into
human nature and how people think and react and knows how to explain
it to others. She was able to explain how women think and work in a
way I would never be able to comprehend on my own as women have always
been a mystery to me. With her help, I was able to tap into the
mysterious mind of a woman I really liked in order to understand what
she wanted and needed from me. The results were incredible! Now I’m a
very happy man in love!”
Anonymous man

Book testimonial

“Men can gain insight into how women think about relationships from
this excellent, practical book. Julia Keller has walked the talk in
her personal life, so she is an authentic guide to help women (and
men) find a partner perfect for them.” Christopher

Can independence be a double edged-sward?

Independent is good but inter-dependent is even better!

Last week saw America celebrating its’ Day of Independence and I wrote about the benefits of being independent in oneself from one’s situation or circumstance. (If you didn’t get to read that blog, you can find it here.) But what about when independence goes from being a good thing that helps you to be create the life you want to becoming a quality that by holding on too tightly to actually stops you from getting close to anyone.

We have been in one way or the other swooped by the tide of modernism called: achieving independence. I would even go as far as making it one of our definitive terms of our era: “the dawn of independence” or an “age of independence”. Having independence over one’s circumstance is great and empowering, as I wrote last week; but what does wanting complete independence of everything really mean in the context of our relationships with other people?

Lets face it, being completely independent is most often related to being single, empowered, financially not in need of anyone else, and in no need of having a partner. But though having this kind of freedom to do whatever one wants without having to consider the feelings of another may sound liberating and fun in a moment, many such moments together into a long part of one’s lifetime and this independence can begin to feel very lonely.

Hence independence can become a double-edged sword: liberating and empowering on one hand — bringing with it freedom of self and decision over ones circumstances — while also carrying loneliness and a lack of strings or relationships when taken too far. So what is the answer?

Well the answer, I believe, is something I call interdependence. Interdependence is akin to the saying “the whole is greater than the sum of its’ parts”. Interdependence is collaboration, it’s co-working, it’s sharing, and it’s partnership. Independence may make us strong as individuals, but interdependence makes us stronger as a whole. Interdependence is better for the unit. Picture the cohesive couple versus the one where each is thinking only of their own selfish needs (divorce court anyone). And interdependence is also better for society as a whole (peace process where each side gets their needs met versus perpetual threat of war as each is attempting to exert what it believes is right).

The truth is that total independence can never be achieved as nothing in this world exists in itself; everything to an extent is dependent on some other thing and needs something else to ensure its’ own survival. As we need plants, water, and sometimes animals (or another food source) to survive as nourishment, so in the world where we are still beings of relationships, we need other people to survive and love for happiness (parents, siblings, friends, lovers, colleagues etc).

I have seen countless cases of ‘independent’ women, who seemed to have it all, feeling completely unhappy due to loneliness. Independence taken too far leaves us clinging to something that will never truly fulfil us. Interdependence is the better version that takes into account our strengths and the strengths as a whole of those we can work together with to succeed beyond just ourselves.

Should you wish to understand how you too can move towards interdependence, finding that ideal partner to share your life with, or sharing your life better by improving your relationship with your current partner, you can schedule your free 30 minute phone call with Julia here.

Hail Independence over Self!

Happy 4th of July to all my American friends, clients, and colleagues.

Today in America is the 4th of July: our day of Independence that is celebrated throughout the country with barbecues and days off of work. Even though at the moment I sit in the UK (the country that the United States celebrates winning independence from),

where I’ve lived for the last decade on and off, I spent much of my youth in America and still spend enough time there to feel myself an American. So I want to commemorate this day and congratulate you all who have any connection to the United States or this day!

It is indeed a wonderful notion to gain independence and announce oneself as a sovereign state to the world. But, as a Love Coach, I speak to clients and groups about a different kind of independence: an independence of oneself over circumstance.

In my work, I am confronted often with clients and people I meet who have lost that independence of self and have surrendered themselves, their moods, their realities, and their reactions to whatever circumstances creep up on their path. What I mean by this exactly can be witnessed by the vast majority of people who react to the situations of their environment and what life brings to them rather than creating a life that brings about the circumstances that they wish to draw into it.

A good example can be demonstrated by this tail of two lost packages.

Recently, two people I knew went through a similar situation but with two very different reactions. The first was a client of mine who was awaiting an important delivery that she needed for her business. She spent all day waiting for the delivery to arrive and even had to cancel client meetings that day to receive it. When it didn’t arrive, she spent hours on the phone arguing with the delivery company and the company that sent it to arrange a next day delivery. When she showed up at my office two days later completely livid over how much time this package had cost her only to be told that now she had to make a special trip to pick it up from the courier only to be told that they didn’t have it. She spent the entire session complaining about the package and couldn’t even focus on our session, and left in as much of a huff as she came in.

Some days later, I went to the talk of a prominent speaker in the community and heard a very similar package story. At least the story began in a similar way. It ended, however, very differently, as this man went on to describe how he changed his natural frustration when he realised that the negative energy wasn’t serving him. Instead of allowing this negative circumstance to infect his mood and his state of mind, he decided to see it as a test and a small obstacle in his path that he could control. Once he took the power onto himself and decided that he had the ability to create his own reality, and thereby the result that he wanted, he began to feel more empowered in this situation once again. He then took control (but not by shouting at the agents of the courier on the other end of the phone). Rather, he took control on a higher level and imagined the scenario that he wanted. He did this using a similar technique as I teach my clients in order to bring in the love that they long for. He did it with such complete faith and self-belief that it was no surprise to him when the courier arrived at his door several hours later with the supposedly lost package (conveniently when he was already at home to receive it), even though he’d been told that the package was lost and was still being tracked just hours earlier on the phone.

I was so impressed with this effective technique, that I called my client immediately and relayed exactly how this man had described of his technique. I myself used the technique often to bring about long-term visions for my life that I’d wanted, as well as to help my clients to channel the partner they wanted into their life, but I’d never considered that it could be used in this simple way as well. At first, my client resisted saying that it would never work. But she’d seen many of my strange techniques materialise into big changes in her life before so she agreed to give it a shot. I received a call from her some days later and she sounded more elated than she had in weeks during our sessions. She couldn’t believe how effectively the technique had worked and asked me to spend the entire next session demonstrating to her how she could use a similar technique to take control of her entire life, especially her love life. She wanted to become independent of her circumstances and to own her own reality: something she’d only just realised that she could do.

This kind of independence is the kind that brings us true joy and freedom in life. Once we realise that we can own our own reality and are not slaves to our circumstance or to the situations that occur around us, then we are truly independent beings free of anything that claims dominion over us and our moods. A mean boss or a grumpy coworker or nasty neighbour can no longer affect us in the same way. Even the moods of our partner or our children have no sway over us as we now understand that we have complete control over our own reactions. By letting situations or circumstances around us control us, we give up our personal independence and allow ourselves to be swayed like a flag in the wind. If we claim our own independence, however, we no longer have to worry what life brings us, as we instead channel in what we want it to bring.

If you too want to discover the magic of creating your own destiny, as my client above did, schedule a free call with me to find out how I can help you to create the life and love life that you really want.

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Interview with Liberty Coach Ruth Carter

Hey you,

As a Love Coach, something I strongly believe in is collaboration and it’s something that I do often. As one of my personal philosophies is approaching the world with Love, I look to collaborate with other professionals who also share this heart-centred approach.

Hence I am proud to introduce my friend, Ruth, a Liberty Coach, who works with youth and their parents and schools. Ruth works to help youths to improve self-esteem and how they relate to each other and the world around them, also helping parents, carers, and teachers to better relate to the youths they care for. I interviewed Ruth recently on her work and am sharing her insightful interview here.

It’s always amazing to hear another inspiring story of a successful woman, and Ruth’s own story is amazing! Ruth’s insightful experience with working with youths is a learning experience for all who have relationships with young people. She says “the bullies are the one’s that have most of the issues”.

Ruth Carter is The Liberty Coach, a Therapeutic Coach for Children, Young People, Parents and Teachers. She specialises in Child & Adolescent Studies and undertakes research on Self-Esteem, Confidence and Academic Attainment. She is also the Bedfordshire Area Programme Manager for schools and for the past 3 years has been facilitating Behaviour Change Courses to students in Year 6 – 11, to increase self-esteem and confidence with NLP.

www.thelibertycoach.com
http://www.hear2listen.org.uk

Love at the time of Tinder: are dating apps making Londoners more lonely ?

Hey there,

Recently, I’ve been paying more attention than ever to the dire statistics on relationships showing us that more and more households are occupied by singles in this decade than any before. Less than a week ago The Telegraph published an article highlighting this new rise in loneliness. It’s no wonder why as a Transformational Love Coach, I’m more busy than ever these days after the publishing of my first two books: my guide on how to find true love, Attract Authentic Love and an Amazon best-selling chronology of 20 female coaches writing very openly about our personal love stories and lessons learned along the way: Love Unboxed.

Over the course of time, there have always existed different opportunities for singles to meet each other. What began with singles columns in newspapers soon turned into online dating sites. Now, the online dating sites have been adapted for our busy and easily-distracted culture in the form of different dating apps. As a Love Coach, I try to stay informed as to what’s out there to help singles meet each other and how to make it work best for my clients. So it’s no surprise that one of my most popular sessions is in helping clients to create a dating app profile that really works to get noticed and teaching them how to communicate and basically “work it”. This has proved very popular with both women and men who are struggling to figure out how to meet that someone special in this busy world of expectation and easily-distracted attention spans.

Because of my belief that we can really meet someone anywhere if we just approach the situation with the right attitude and with openness and interest, I was especially interested when I was contacted by a 20 something University student writing an article about how dating apps were were making Londoners more lonely. I was curious about how someone so young could already be struggling with finding love. Interestingly, my clients at the same time were becoming younger. Where I began working mostly with female clients over 35 and male clients over 45, suddenly both women and men under 30 began contacting me for help in finding love. Somehow, I hadn’t expected finding love to be such a struggle already at such a young age. It started me wondering how I can help change this to help more people of any age to find true love. My self-study program (to be launched in July) was the beginning of my attempt to combat this. So is my offer to speak pro-bono to any group of young people (especially young women or high school or university aged girls) in order to help spread the word of the importance of self-value and self-love as a first step towards finding true love. I also encourage anyone who works in organisations with battered women or with people really needing to learn to love themselves to contact me.

I also would like to share with you this interview I gave to the young journalist who spent a lot of time looking into whether dating apps are making Londoners more lonely? I know that many of my readers and clients hold strong opinions regarding dating apps and their efficacy, whether for or against. While I don’t necessarily agree that dating apps can be blamed for our current “age of loneliness” — and I have personally witnessed many clients find love using dating apps — I do see them as a symptom of our low attention spans, our hurried inattentive business, and our belief that there’s always something better around the corner. Perhaps this big change in our culture, which then means we change lovers more quickly and don’t work on or value something potentially good, is really what’s to blame for much of our loneliness. Well that and our lack of understanding of how to find love in the first place. My self-study program includes a module on how to create a dating app profile that gets you attention quickly from the kind of person that you want attention from. But it also includes modules on improving self-love and self-value — as all of these are key towards finding true love.
To read the article about love and Tinder in the modern age, click here: http://www.italoeuropeo.co.uk/2017/05/17/love-time-tinder-dating-apps-making-londoners-lonely/

TRADITIONAL VALUES WITH A MODERN TWIST interview with Jimmy Peruzzi

Hi There,
As you’ve probably noticed, the rules of dating, love, and relationships have been changing significantly in our modern times. I have both women and men too coming to me after events I speak at asking me about how to tackle the dating world with all of these new and different rules. Both sexes are equally lost and confused, so I spend a lot of time talking about what I like to call “traditional values with a modern twist”. Interestingly, I’m not the only one who’s noticed how much more complicated dating is today and how important developing self-confidence and self-love is to finding and creating that ideal relationship.

Another NLP Expert and Coach, Jimmy Petruzzi, who regularly interviews experts for his YouTube program, sought me out to speak specifically about this area. I thought you may enjoy it so am sharing with you here.

Hope you enjoy it and if you have any questions about coaching or NLP you can schedule a free 30 minute call with me here.

How to Pick Up a Stranger on During Your Way Home

“Some months ago during a normal busy commute home, as I was standing waiting for a seat to come free, I locked eyes with an attractive man in front of me”

Do you feel that the commute to and from work is lonely and empty and wrought with strangers who barely catch each other’s eye? Do you ever spot an attractive stranger on the way and wish you knew how to meet him?

Being a Love Coach with a growing business, I now often get asked to write articles for other sites and magazines. This month we bring you one of these, in case you haven’t seen it already, on a site called Digital Romance. This one happens to answer that question of how to meet that special person on your way back from work. Hope you enjoy and please leave us a comment if it helps.

READ FULL ARTICLE HERE

If you want a guide of how to attract amazing love into your life, you can start with my book “Attract Authentic Love” available now. Here’s the link. For deeper help specific to you, book a free 30 minute call to find out more about my one to one coaching. And stay tuned for my upcoming launch of my online self-study product and group coaching program.

Create The Relationship That You Absolutely LOVE!

Hey you,

Are you like so many people out there just wishing to have that ideal relationship but not really knowing exactly how to get it?

Well, if that’s you, then you’ll be as excited as I am about this information which has the transformational power to change your love life for the better (and I mean MUCH better)! So keep reading!

Julia BannerYou see, I was recently invited to speak at an exciting event as a contributor amongst 25+ leading relationship experts on helping you hack the main principles to a passionate and dynamite family and relationship life! What makes this exciting for me is that I get to share this with you and others in my community for FREE.

It is a special treat for you that will radically change the way you view what’s possible for you and your loved one (guaranteed).

Click Here to Access this for FREE

The Relationship Mastery Series is an Online Event, so you get to enjoy it at your pace in a comfortable setting. This online event features 25+ of the world’s leading experts (including yours truly) who are completely giving away their time and knowledge for YOU because we really believe that the key to a happier and more fulfilling life is through having that happy and fulfilling relationship!

Here are just a few of the topics speakers will be covering:

–       How to find that incredible partner for you

–   How to ignite a deeper, soulful connection with your partner

–       Favorite secrets to keeping the sex life ALIVE

–       Strategies to manage conflicts

–       And much more

But you know what the best part is?

Because you’ve been such a loyal and true follower and friend to me, and such an amazing supporter of the work that I do, you are now eligible for an exclusive invitation to register for the summit… for FREE!

All you have to do to reserve your seat is to go to this link:

Get Instant Access to The Relationship Mastery Series

 And it will cost you exactly nothing if you join NOW!

I’ll see you inside.

To your dream life realized,

JULIA

P.S. This is the ‘Dream Family 101’ class all of us wish existed years ago… except now it does! You’re not going to want to miss this opportunity…

And after you listen to the interview with me and so many other amazing experts, when you’ll have some outstanding questions, you’ll be able to book a free Love Tune Up call with me at this link to find out more about how I can help

The Art of Manifesting Love – Once More

Hey there,
Some time ago, when I was first starting out in my love coaching career, I had come upon the realization of the power of manifesting what you want into your life. I was able to use this power to manifest in so many wonderful things into my life so I was filled with the excitement of just how potent this ability to manifest was.
Seeing the miracles take flight in my own life, I wanted to share this amazing ability with everyone. And I tried to. I wrote articles, I tried to teach it to my clients, and I spoke about it basically to anyone who would listen. But I soon came upon a common hurdle: doubt.
You see, attracting anything into your life — whether love, or money, or just a happier life — requires faith. And I was new then to this article thing of inspiring others and I didn’t yet know how to inspire faith.
You may be sitting in that place of doubt now. You may be watching the days celebrating love come and go with dread.

Valentine’s Day has come and passed, bringing with it that crystal clear sentiment of feeling more single if we’re single. Spring is here and soon summer, bringing in picnics, couples sitting together at outside tables, walking hand in hand through parks, and kissing in full view. We live in a world these days that doesn’t allow us to sit and wallow for long. Work, life, and the everyday get in the way. But if you’re single, and you don’t want to be single, then that feeling of being singled out isn’t one that disappears.

 In fact, it’ll come back to haunt you in those unexpected moment. You’re on a tube or a bus and you see a happy couple leaning against each other. You’re in a restaurant with friends and you see another happy couple holding hands on the table and stealing kisses from each other when they think no one is watching. You’re walking in the park and there’s a couple walking together happily flirting and giggling with one another like two teenagers. And then it happens. That creeping feeling that you don’t want to let in, that you’ve spent all this time keeping out, that you’ve filled with whatever you can to try and suffocate it; it comes creeping back in. And it sounds something like this: “Why don’t I have somebody special in my life? What is it about her that makes her lovable that I’m missing? Why doesn’t anyone love me like that?”

I’ve been on both sides of that couple equation (both in he couple the one watching envious from outside) so I know how badly it can feel to be without, especially when you know what you’re missing.

The thing about love is that it is out there and available to all of us, just like sustenance of any kind. Whatever higher being you believe in – which I’ll just call The Universe for now – it wants us all to find what we’re after. It wants our success and it desires our happiness. Then the question of all time arises: Why is it that some people find happiness, love, financial security and success…; while others don’t?

Ever since I began coaching clients on improving their love lives some time back, I have tried to isolate the key ingredients that some possess that ensures that they are successful in love. Even with my clients, I’ve seen some find success immediately, while others take longer to understand and act on the principles that I teach them. In my quest to understand what works, I began to watch and question the women who I find successful and to dissect what makes them that way. I also conducted some very candid interviews with men which I put on my YouTube channel.

But other than all of these clear ingredients which I’ve learned about, I’ve also discovered a key principle which I’m now sharing with my current clients to unbelievable success: I call it The Art of Attracting Authentic Love and my book “Attract Authentic Love” is now published and can be bought on Amazon and other bookstores.

I have seen this principle work clearly in my own life over the years: both for my career and for my love life. I have also seen how forgetting about the principle, and ignoring some of the rules of success, led to long moments of lack. As happens to many people, the feeling of lack then increases inside me that lack which then surfaces in life as more of that lacking. If I would allow myself to get stuck and sink into that feeling, that would then have the effect of further eroding my life. Believe me, I’ve been there and I’ve done that. Luckily, however, this distance from the life I want to live would serve eventually to wake me up into pursuing what I want once again, and I would reconnect with the principles and bring my life back in order and flowing in the right direction.

All of us will go through moments of emptiness, moments of unhappiness with our lives, moments of feeling alone in our journey and realising that we don’t want to be alone. The trick is to use that feeling of dissatisfaction to propel us forward, and not as an excuse to wallow and to sink into the beckoning unhappiness. It is always easier to complain, to sit at home and moan about how poor the options of great men out there are while sinking a spoon into a pot of ice cream and watching a chick flick on our own (or whatever your poison). It’s much more difficult to come to grips with the fact that we’re unhappy and to do something about it finally. I’ve had clients that I met for the first time a year before they decided to finally sign up and do something about their lives. Now after almost two years of helping clients to Attract Authentic Love into their lives, I have clients coming to me rather than having to look for them. I am very grateful for this change. It means that I can really help those who are ready to help themselves.

Sometimes it takes many years to be ready to change; after all, change isn’t easy. Some clients I met at the beginning of my coaching  weren’t yet ready to work for what they wanted; they weren’t yet ready to leave victim mode behind. At that time, though my prices were low, they seemed too high because they were still in a place of complaining and wallowing. Months later, however, something shifted and they realised that they didn’t want to be alone anymore and that they were finally ready to do something about it. By that point, my prices had increased, but they were ready to act and so they paid without hesitation. I have unlimited patience for people to be ready to act, because I know that until they’re ready, I can’t really help them. Thanks to this realisation, I’ve now implemented a short call where I check if clients are really the kind of client that I want to work with and that I feel I can help in ensuring a success story for. Now I only take clients who are truly ready to begin their journey to a better love life, and the results achieved are profound.

Without darkness, there can never be light. Without failure, there can never be success. Without obstacles in our way, we can never feel that incredible feeling of successfully surpassing them. If you are ready to begin your journey towards a better love life, I am here to help you get there. For those that qualify, I offer a way forward. I’ll soon be launching a Self-study online product and following that a group workshop (both in-person and online). For now, you have my book to get you started. I’m so sure that this info will help you to achieve the love life you want, that I’m entering everyone who reads the book and writes us a rave review on Amazon into our raffle to win a free Love Session (valued £200), just send us a pic of your review to be entered. And if you share the book with a friend who also writes a rave review, they get entered and you get entered again (so another chance to win).

And if you truly feel ready to move your love life from “ho hum” to “hell yeah”, you can book a Love Tune Up call with me on this link to see if you qualify to be one of my small group of one to one clients.

DIVORCED PARENTS

If you’ve been following my work for a while, or if you’ve worked with me in the past, or read my books, you’ve probably heard or seen me repeat the phrase “believe in second chances” in different ways. While you probably theoretically believe that second chances are possible, you may feel –especially if you’ve loved strongly before and failed or been disappointed or hurt – that the amazing love you seek won’t come around again. There is certainly a difference in believing in something theoretically and having the needed true faith that translates that belief into actual actions and attitudes: the kind of actions and attitudes that work to manifest your beliefs into reality.

In my work with clients, as well as in my own self work, I help to move that faith from simple belief to an energy that helps to create and bring about that which is believed in and hoped for. What this means is having that necessary faith in love, faith that is not only something that is ‘understood’ , but is also an action that brings about the reaction that you wish for. This begins with having faith in yourself and living a life full of self-love and moves into having faith in love and sharing that love with that special someone who is worthy of it. That ability doesn’t end because it was broken before of even because it failed once or didn’t go quite as planned. I have witnessed many who were badly hurt learn from past errors, get up again, and find their way to love even greater than they thought possible. I myself am a prime example of this, as are many of my clients and the amazing women that I modelled some of my early work on. I believe is second chances and so should you!

Thanks to this more modern society now becoming more and more conscious of the benefits of self-development and self-work, more and more people are making that transition from merely believing in something theoretically to transforming that belief into action that benefits their lives. Recently I was contacted by an impressive gentleman who, due to his own personal reasons and learning, decided to open a website, completely free of charge and out of his own pocket, for divorced parent looking for help in rebuilding that faith in life, asking me if I would be interested in being listed as a Love Coach on his website. Not only am I willing, I am so humbled to be asked and potentially be able to be of any help to people who go through divorce – which, based on my own experience, I know can be life shattering, but also potentially highly rebuilding and an opportunity for learning, betterment, and self-growth.

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BY NEW BOOK

I can’t describe in words how impressive it is to have someone who understands how difficult something like divorce can be, take the time to help others thanks to his own experience. My own Love Coaching work came out of my personal experience as well, so I understand the power behind that desire to help others to improve from one’s own failure. If you have undergone such an experience, would like a support network, or if you want to be touched by the stories of others who did, have a look at the website and share it with anyone you think might need it and get inspired.

http://www.divorcedparents.co.uk/lawyer/details/all/coaching/399

If you have any questions regarding coaching you can always schedule a free discovery call with me following this link:

https://attractauthenticlove.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?appointmentType=1926282

Success Story: Find Love At Any Age

As a Love Coach, I really believe that one can find love at any age. I even posted this article on Facebook recently, about an elderly couple who found true love in their 90’s. And I know several couples personally who found each other post retirement.

It’s no surprise therefore that so many of my clients are over 35, quite a few in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and sometimes beyond. This month’s testimonial is a client who wanted to believe in love again.

Should you desire to find love again and feel that you’re too old or that it’s too late on your life journey, schedule a call with Julia Keller to understand how you too can #findloveatanyage.

JOIN THE REVOLUTION

Remember the last time that you saw somebody you really liked but didn’t take the opportunity to say hello… How frustrating is it when that person might be a perfect partner for you and you miss the opportunity to talk to them.

Wouldn’t it be great if the next time you passed by someone you wanted to get to know better, you knew what to do to begin a conversation. Well I’m giving you three tips after the below video. Just click on the link under the video to read the tips.

Of course sometimes, even with the best tips and the best intentions, something doesn’t work out and the moment just doesn’t happen… if you are kicking yourself afterwards and you wish you had a second chance to say hello to that special someone, watch the video and Join the Revolution!

This is why we agreed to collaborate with Happn. What we like about Happn is that it gives you a second chance to meet that someone you noticed but didn’t have the courage to talk to the first time. One of the things that my clients complain about all of the time is that they are kicking themselves for missing that chance to speak to that someone that interests them, we with Happn you have the opportunity to have that second chance.

And if you want more apps we choose as our top five out there to meet someone if you’re over 30, have a look at our video highlighting our top five apps.

And here are three tips for how to talk to that someone you notice:

Tip #1: Use your eyes and your lips to grab interest.

The original way of grabbing someone’s interest is still the best: use your eyes and your smile. The trick is to do this in a way that draws the other person in. Keep his gaze just a little longer than comfortable and then follow with a smile while still keeping eye contact. This could be nerve-wracking if you’re not comfortable doing this, but you soon find yourself getting better at it. We’ll demonstrate this technique fully in our coming online product so stay tuned.

Tip #2: Get him at “hello”.

Sometimes the simplest words are the most effective. You don’t have to try too hard to start a conversation or even say anything particularly witty. A “hello” said in a seductive, captivating way is enough to draw the other person in and create a desire for more. Bond this with eye contact and a sightly mysterious smile for extra impact.

Tip #3:  Find a commonality.

We all know that having something in common makes conversation easier. Well the good news is that finding something in common with that person you’ve been eyeing is easier than you think. If you’re both standing on a long line that’s moving slowly, for instance, you’re probably both feeling equally frustrated. Or if you’re both out standing at a bar, you’re probably both after a drink. These are already two simple commonalities that can help spur a conversation.

For more such tips, follow my blog and read me now on several other blogs too. And if you want some more personal advice for your specific situation, schedule a free 30 minute Love Tune Up call with me on this link.

Awakening Through Tragedy

Last week another terrorist attack rocked Europe. This time, however, it took place right in the heart of London, not very far from the Centre where my office is.

The aftermath of the London attack, which took no longer than 80 seconds, left people puzzled, angered, afraid, and confused. My immediate reaction upon hearing the news of more attacks — this time so near to us — was one of fear and sadness.

When such events take place, they have the effect of awakening us, of giving us a moment of clarity that leaves no space for judgement, no matter how brief that moment is, it is a moment of complete powerlessness as if acknowledging the mysterious way in which one’s life can be seized as we know it, in less than a minute. Such events have the power to really bring people together, put things into perspective, and question the people that we surround ourselves with. Such a situation is an awakening reminding us to cherish the life that we’ve been given, to take a moment to reflect on what has just happened and why, and to ask ourselves this question: if i had only a day left to live, would i live my life differently?

Every one responds to such tragedies in their own way: psychologically, politically, vengefully, protectively etc. As a Love Coach, I generally respond from the point of view that I believe in… that of love. And if I were to ask myself that question, and I did, I knew that I would have wanted my day to be one where I surround myself with my family, kids, friends, and loved ones: people who are dear to me in a place that is meaningful to us, doing something that gives me joy. In my eyes, everything that gives you joy can only come from a place of love…

From my experience, it is where love is lacking that anger, aggression, and violence have space to set in and threaten the world we live in. In other words, love is really something we need desperately more of to cure the hostility and anger that lies in the outskirts and threatens to destroy this beautiful world which has come so far, but which has sacrificed greatly in the process.

Our world has moved foreword in so many amazing ways, but as individuals, have we given in too much to individuality and lost too much in the area of collaboration and partnership… and love? If we were to clean ourselves of our fears, complexes, insecurities, our anger and mistrust of those who are different, etc would we still see so much reason to fight against each other, or would we rather revel in love and joy and find a way to work together for the mutual gain of everyone involved?

Perhaps the issues of the world are too big to fathom and to solve, but what about our own individual issues? What about those arguments we fall into that split us from those we love? What if instead of fighting, we sought to really listen and understand the other’s point of view and to find a middle ground that makes both parties happy? What if starting at home with our loved ones, our friends, our partners, our children would then allow us to practice the skills we need to help us to do the same later on a slightly bigger scale: such as at work during conflicts with our bosses and colleagues; or an even bigger scale, such as issues between companies, between big corporations and disgruntled employees, and yes an even bigger scale of the issues in the world.

Perhaps I’m a dreamer, but I really do believe that it is Love and compassion for each other that will solve the many issues now plaguing this world. Maybe it’s a difficult and long road to climb still but the beauty of life’s mystery is that in between the things that we have less control over as simple individuals, we are free to live our lives as we wish, and to control our own actions and ways with others. If we can choose our reaction to the action of those in our lives, why not choose the reaction of love. And maybe somehow the “butterfly effect” will help our way spread to put even a small sprinkle of healing love into the fractured world we live in.

Want help to understand how to solve your own individual conflicts with love and compassion, or how to love yourself better? Schedule a free 30 minute call with Julia here.

Find the best dating site for you!

Hey you,

It’s not easy to meet someone who’s perfect for us these days, especially as we’re often so busy with playing catch-up on our lives: running to catch a bus, train, taxi, meet a friend in a coffee shop etc. Life has become so fast-paced that the methods of meeting someone in this busy time have changed. In the past, we could meet a friend of a friend, a classmate, co worker or a stranger you in a cafe, park, cinema etc… now that kind of meeting is much too rare.

We are all so swamped with ‘things we need to do’ that take over our concentration that we miss the opportunities of meeting that someone special that are in our sights. That’s why a new way of meeting people was so needed and came along with the advent of online dating some years back. Once meeting someone that way was something people didn’t like to talk about. These days, however, many happy couples talk about having met that way. One of the areas that many women and men come to me for help in, in fact, is in showing them how to create an online or app profile that really stands out and gets noticed.

The key thing firstly though is to choose the right dating site or right app for you. We’ve been privileged to be asked to share this wonderful research on the top best dating sites out there as rated by Reviews.com, a fantastic reviewer site. This great research on top dating sites really helps: http://www.reviews.com/online-dating-sites/

According to their copious research, the top four finalists are — all likely names you already recognize — OkCupid, Match.com, eHarmony, and Plenty of Fish — and their official tester tried them all. She came up with a snappy username, entered her personal information, wrote detailed but pithy descriptions of her hobbies and interests, answered hundreds of multiple-choice questions, posted photos, and browsed profile after profile. She kept a detailed log of every view, like, wink, fave, and message she received. They used it all to find the best.

Click here to find out which one is the most popular online dating website!

Creating an online profile that really gets noticed and liked is something that can take years to get just right. And, let’s be honest, you’re likely to give up way before then. There are just too many to choose from, and it actually takes trial and error to find the one dating online site or an app to feel fully comfortable using and which gives you the most favorable choice of partners.

The great news is that we have done that research for you!  using the before mentioned website as well as research I conducted myself and with client through trial and error, I have fully dwellved into the pros and cons of many apps and sites. This means that now I can teach others the same skills that had me and my clients filled with attractive choice! Schedule a free call with me now and find out how to date better on online sites by creating a better profile.

Thumbs up! Very soon I am releasing my whole research online – so stay tuned, but if you cant wait schedule a call 😉

Schedule a call! 

Lets embrace the movement and make it work for us.

How to Mend A Broken Heart?

Hi there,

I just want to say how pleased I was to see so many of you at the Best You Expo! What a great weekend that was!

When I was deciding of the topic for the Best You expo, I actually had two topics that I wanted to speak about in mind. The first one was the one that I chose and spoke about on Sunday: “Unleash Your Amazing Uniqueness,” which was all about reframing your mind in order to see your true best self in order to show it to others so that you can bring true, lasting love into your life.

The second topic was my attempt at reframing a certain issue that we all go through at some point in our lives: that of suffering from a broken heart. Many of my clients come to me at some stage of trying to find love again after a broken heart, whether years after or months. Even if you choose to end a relationship that isn’t working, it can still leave you with that feeling of unhealed scar tissue that won’t go away until you find a way to deal with it.

The reason I chose this topic was a story I heard that really moved and angered me: a woman I met some time ago confessed that when her husband left her 20 years ago, giving no explanation as to why, and receiving no answers to her questions – her heart broke into a million pieces and a complete distrust took over her. It was only her daughter that helped her to pull herself back together and continue. But yet, even 20 years later, this woman was unable to mend her broken heart and to stop herself from thinking of reasons why her husband may have left her for every night before falling asleep!

The story of this woman’s heartbreak brought me to tears. This broken heart left her so wounded that she gave up any future possibility of love and happiness. Her story showed me that heartbreak, if left untreated and untended, is a devastation for life! Hence, I decided to approach this topic at my next speaking event which is very soon: THIS WEEKEND!

I am dedicating this speech, which I will repeat twice during the day, to all hearts who have been broken and still feel the residue of pain :
“How to Mend A Broken Heart”

Don’t Feel Lack Ever Again – My 50 sec Video

Hi there,

Last week I introduced you to the idea of reframing the way you think to reach a greater level of happiness in your life. If you missed that newsletter, you can read it again here.

As a Love Coach, I have a strong belief in love and happy relationships being linked to happiness. When you are in love and you are loved back in return, it feels as though you are closer to your true self than you ever were before. This is especially true of romantic love, but it is also true of how you feel with the love of close friends or family and when you hold the love that you have for your children. When we feel strong love, we are able to be more honest with our desires and fears; our view of the world seizes to be tainted with feelings of ‘lack’; and, despite our fears, love helps us feel brave enough to fearless live every single day fully!
This weekend, I’ll be at the Best You Expo, at Stand 12, to answer any of your questions about love. On Sunday, at 12pm in room 3, you can hear me speak about how to reframe your past hurts and history and even what you believe to be your negative qualities. For more information on how to book tickets, click here

Thanks to your support, we’ve also made it to the list of semi-finalist of the Best You Awards for The Best Lifestyle Enhancement Vlogger. We’re on the same list as Zoella, who my daughter adores, so I’m pretty excited even to make it this far! Thanks to Marija and Stefani, who participate very actively in the creation of our video content.
OVERCOME LONELINESS 

You can also schedule a free call to find out more about any of these programs or just simply make a move towards overcoming loneliness by talking to me by booking a Love Tune Up call below.

REFRAME

Hi there,

Marcus Aurelius once said  ‘Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking’. In NLP we use the term “reframing” to refer to a change of mindset so that a negative thought or idea can be reframed to be considered in a more positive outlook and life can be lived to its fullest.

For example, imagine a picture beautifully hanging on a wall. No matter how amazing that picture might be, whether it has a physical frame to it or not, the image is framed. It has an outline of its size and shape and it is that frame that gives the picture a certain life. In a similar way, we live our lives within a certain frame which has been established for us most likely by past history and by what we’ve been told is practical and reasonable. We are never taught that we can change this frame or even get rid of it altogether.

As a Love Coach, I very often use this NLP method of reframing and have decided to follow the same idea in my upcoming Best You Expo talk on 5th March at 12pm in room 3 (stand 12 for the Expo duration). Have a look at my video below and come and hear me help you re-frame your way of thinking about yourself and your ability to succeed and thrive in love. Learn to Unleash Your Amazing Uniqueness to create a life full of love and happiness as you never believed possible.

Do you hate Valentine’s Day?

Hi there,

It’s Valentine’s Day and of course, as a Love Coach, I’m bringing out a Valentine’s Day video.

If you’re feeling sad or lonely because you don’t have any plans, and if there is even a tiny part of you that wishes you had someone special to take you out today, then I have a great news for you.

Actually I even have two pieces of great news. Firstly, my upcoming self-study program is being created this month and should be available for purchase towards the end of March, which I am making for those of you who were constantly begging me to put together a learning platform that will allow you the benefits of learning how to Attract Authentic Love into your life but at a fraction of the cost of my coaching.

In addition, I’ll also be at a SINGLES fair and am offering you tickets with a 25% discount code by clicking the link below.

http://ukdatingfair.co.uk

The special discount code for the fair is ‘VAL25’.

You can also schedule a free call to find out more about any of these programs or just simply make a move towards overcoming loneliness by talking to me by booking a Love Tune Up call below.