Committing, Focusing, Celebrating

Committing, Focusing, Celebrating

This month marks the one year anniversary of me committing to being a
Love Coach full time and completely. It’s one year since I stopped
doing any other work that doesn’t go along with my mission of
empowering women and that I began to devote all my time and energy
towards helping women (and occasionally men, and sometimes even
couples) to significantly improve  their love life. So with this
graduation to my first year anniversary as an official
Transformational Love Coach for women, what have I learned that can
benefit those of you reading this newsletter?

Well first of all, I’ve come to realise the power of committing to
something, and I mean committing really. It was when I really
committed to being a Love Coach, and even began calling myself that
when meeting new people, that my business really began to take off.
There was something about saying it and owning it that bridged that
gap between what I wanted to be and what I truly was allowing myself
to feel that I was. There is something that happens after committing
to doing something so fully and completely for a year. It happens with
whatever you do, whether committing yourself to a relationship or to a
full-time job. Whatever it is that you put yourself into fully for
that length of time, it gives you a pretty clear feeling of whether it
is meant for you (and you are meant for it) or not.

That is something that I help empower women I work with to do as well.
When they find themselves at a crossroads and unsure of whether their
relationship has the potential to give them what they want long term,
or whether one course of action is better than another, one of the
things we do is run through both scenarios and then have them choose
one and completely commit to it, putting all their eggs into that
basket so to speak. There is something amazing that happens with this
kind of full commitment that strengthens and reinforces the chosen
path and the dynamic totally shifts into the chosen direction, as does
the mindset and feeling around it, thereby making the chosen path that
much more successful and fruitful.

The next realisation has come with the focusing of my business on a
small chosen niche and a smaller target group. Rather than that focus
costing me potential clients, as I’d originally feared, it actually
caused me to be more able to deliver a better service to those
clients, as I was then able to focus on them completely and to really
put myself into their mindset. It also helped those chosen clients to
more easily find me, and me to more easily find them, as it became
that much more clear what I actually did and what I actually stood
for.

This focusing is something that we can all benefit from in our lives
and especially in ourselves. Becoming more clear on who we actually
are, and what we actually stand for, may cost us some potential
partners in the short run, as they may not want what we are. But it
will make it so much easier for that right partner for us to find us
among the masses, as we will really be showing the true essence of
ourselves; and it will lead to us being so much more attractive and
exciting in the long run (not to mention to us living a truly
fulfilled life knowing that we are completely authentic to ourselves).
This uncovering of who we are, and digging into the true essence of
what drives us — and that showing of one’s personality, and even
one’s vulnerability — is something so amazingly attractive and unique
that women who stick out from the crowds generally do just that and it
is something that I empower my clients to uncover and to get back in
touch with, sometimes returning back to the things in their life that
they were really passionate about but that they’d given up because of
fear, or lack of encouragement, or whatever.

And the last lesson is that of celebrating. This includes celebrating
our life up to now, celebrating ourselves, and celebrating our
achievements, among other celebrations. Sometimes we become so
consumed in the journey towards some hazy destination that seems
really out of reach, that we forget to celebrate the achievements
along the way and the everyday moments that make us feel and that
renew our fervour and our drive, and that remind us of why we are
where we are along this road to begin with. Life is something to be
celebrated. Even in the down moments, there is celebration in the
dreams that have been given to us and the excitement of our reaching
towards them. Think about the last time that you celebrated a year at
a job, for instance; or the last time that you celebrated your first
year anniversary in a relationship; or even a first year birthday of a
child. There is something special in that first year, as there is in
every timepoint that you made it past. You’ve made it that long;
you’ve survived. And oh how you’ve grown and learned in the process of
the journey!

In my work with clients, I help them to firstly celebrate who they are
and what they’ve achieved up to now. They become empowered to become
their own pat on the back congratulations and their own choir of
applause. After all, if you don’t celebrate how amazing you are, then
how can you expect anyone else to ever celebrate you. If you don’t
celebrate your accomplishments and how far you’ve come and the wise
decisions you’ve made, then you are leaving them to escape unnoticed.
In my work with clients, I often find that it is that lack of
celebration of the times with someone that leaves couples feeling
empty and unnoticed by each other. But even in my main work, with
singles, it is the forgetting to celebrate yourself that makes women
often feel unfulfilled in themselves. There is an amazing shift that
happens in self-confidence with clients who learn to celebrate who
they are and everything that they’ve achieved in their lives up to
now.

 If you want to feel that shift as well, and you are    ready and serious about creating that love life that you’ve always wanted, then reply tothis email with “ready for love” and the best number to contact youon, and Maria, my PA, will arrange your free discovery session withme.
Want to work with me but not sure that you can afford one to one
coaching, sign up now for my upcoming “unleash the irresistible woman
within” workshop at the pre-aunch price.
Julia xx

1 thought on “Committing, Focusing, Celebrating”

  1. Committing, focusing, celebrating are the keys to empowering women or for that matter any person. I am one with the author on this…great and basic principles!!!

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