Recently, I had the pleasure of interviewing Pragna, an incredible woman who works with Cancer patients through complementary care. If you didn’t have a chance to see the video with Pragna as to how to best survive and avoid Cancer, you can watch it here.
Today, I bring you two articles I found that talk about how to keep Cancer away through diet and lifestyle changes. Cancer is a disease that, according to Cancer Research, will affect one out of every two people, which is a maddening statistic.
It is also noted that for half of the people who get Cancer, it is completely preventable by changing lifestyle and diet. So isn’t it worth trying? Now studying BioMedicine, in preparation for the degree in Naturopathic Nutrition, I’ve come to realise just how much we can do to ensure that our health is optimal at any point in our lives. It is never too late to change and live healthier, cleaner lives. If you would like some help with managing your diet, your weight, your stress or your lifestyle, book a free call with Julia on the link below.
Recently I interviewed an incredible woman I met while doing the Best You Expo this year. She has changed her life and her career to work with patients who are suffering from Cancer as a complementary care therapist. She has also lived in a family where two close family members were stricken with the disease. Here, her observations on why some surpass Cancer and others are taken by it and how we can do what’s necessary to keep Cancer at bay.
It’s summertime and the weather is still fantastic, so it’s a great time to enjoy the sunshine. So today’s video is about suncare. We’ve obviously read quite a lot about protecting our skin from the sun, but we’ve also read about the health benefits of Vitamin D. So should we use sunscreen or shouldn’t we? Find out in the video below.
Need help taking better care of your skin from the inside out and the outside in? Talk to Julia by booking your free call today using the link below.
Recently I started to work with a new friend of mine, Stewart, who introduced me to the world of radio. I guest starred on his show several times and you can listen to them here. It was great fun!
UK Health radio also has its own magazine dedicated to healthy lifestyle, where you can find an article I wrote about finding love.
Be A Better You To Find True Love – An Article For the Health Triangle Magazine
In this busy interconnected world, where technology promises to make it easier than ever to find a “date” for the evening (even if it only lasts an evening), why does it seem harder than ever to find the Love that we desperately seek? If you’ve been searching for longer than you’d care to admit and are beginning to wonder if true love still exists, or if you feel you’ve looked everywhere and are stuck in either a string of short-term romances that never materialise into anything significant or a rut of no romance at all, perhaps you’re looking for love in the wrong places. In fact, perhaps the first place you should look for the source of your love problems is in the mirror. If there’s anything I’ve learned from my work as a Love Therapist, it’s that the first place to start on your journey towards true Love is with yourself. So here are three big questions to ask yourself on your way to becoming the best version of You that will get you back on the road to finding Love.
• DOYOULOOKDESIRABLEENOUGH?
No matter how much we sugarcoat the fact, looks are an important first part of attraction. That doesn’t mean that you have to be the living embodiment of the next pinup model or that you have to be perfectly slim, perfectly built or perfectly proportioned. It simply means that you need to take the time to look after how you look. When choosing a Partner, all of us subconsciously search for someone who is healthy and well put together. Begin with feeding your body right so that both your figure and your skin look healthy and vibrant. Then find clothing that flatters your figure and helps you to look well-presented and attractive. Your hair, your skin and your makeup should be flattering to your face (no matter your age). Learn to take care of your body and health better by eating right and exercising appropriately. Every client that signs up to any of my packages spends at least one session (if not an entire month) working on looking their best. The better they begin to look, the better they feel about themselves, the easier they bring love into their life.
• DO YOU FEEL DESIRABLE ENOUGH?
No matter how great you look, if you don’t feel good about yourself, your relationships will either stagnate or never really feel right. The first part of my book Attract Authentic Love begins with loving yourself first. We must begin to appreciate and value ourselves in order to teach the world how to appreciate and value us. That means beginning with feeling that we are worthy of love and that we are desirable enough to find it. If we don’t demonstrate respect for ourselves, and allow others to treat us badly, how can we complain when they do? The only end to the cycle of negative love is to feel truly worthy of positive, affirming love that values us and to accept nothing less, only allowing those who
treat us well close enough to win our hearts. This begins with believing we are desirable and worthy of love, and believing it enough that we call it into our lives.
• DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE?
Before you can begin to look for love, you have to believe in it. So if your attitude about love at the moment could use a tune up, that could be why your love life isn’t working. After all, life has an interesting way of giving us whatever we expect it will. If we look for darkness and negativity, we can easily find it. To find love and happiness, you have to look at life as if that love and happiness is already there and readily available to you. With my clients, I help them get to this point through targeted hypnotherapy, NLP and visualisation exercises. You can do this on your own by imagining yourself being loved, looked after and admired and feeling how wonderful it feels to have this continuously until you really believe in the possibility. Remember that true love is out there for every one of us. Have faith, believe and be open to finding it.
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Your body is your temple, your body is your home, your body is your way towards expressing who you are. In ancient Greek times, being physically fit was considered as impressive as being intelligent. The belief was that in a beautiful body lives a beautiful soul. This may sound unjust. After all, we are in fact so much more than just our bodies and I do agree with the often used expression: “Don’t judge a book by its’ cover”. Superficially judging others is not only unfair, but it also leaves us missing who they really are below the surface. That said, we know that the same Greeks who held this belief were actually a profound, deep-thinking people.
Plato is a great example of someone who believed that keeping mind AND body in shape was deeply important. While one of the greatest philosophers of any time, he also was one of the greatest Olympian champions — and to be an Olympian champion in Greece, you had to be fit!
In ancient Greece, taking care of one’s body was perceived as a sign of intelligence because your body is your vehicle in life. Yes, you, that someone inside, is the driver, but if your car breaks down, you cannot go very far. It is all about balance; you give as much attention to inner as to outer. You have a responsibility to your body to nurture it. Responsible people reflect that responsibility to their bodies as well. It should not become your sole occupation, but it should be one of your priorities.
Hence in this mood of health, I decided to share an interview I did with a very dear person to be, who has been through her share of skin health issues, telling us how she dealt with them and how your body can become holier by simply attending to your nutrition.
Ever since humanity created written history, there have been many stories of women who in the name of unconditional love sacrifice their families, careers, countries, kingdoms and even themselves. In modern times, we may question what it actually is that makes women give up so much for love? Though there exist stories of men who do the same as well of course, this tendency seems to be more common with women.
Ancient Medea, for example, gave up her nation’s cultural and spiritual heritage to a man she fell in love with. And if that wasn’t enough, she committed treason, killed her brother in order to protect hew beau and deceived her father. In more modern times, the famous opera singer,
Ironically Maria Callas in a film role as a Medea
Maria Callas, threw away her long career to be with the man she madly loved. She, just like Medea, gave up her success, reputation and talent to a man.
These are only two examples from the so many out there. Though times have changed dramatically for women, allowing us unprecedented independence and freedom, I still encounter such women, whose love stories are similar in their sacrifice, with the key difference being simply in the fact of them being unpublicised and uncelebrated.
The fact is that women tend to sacrifice their careers, their hobbies and free time more often for husbands and their families than men. Women tend to move much more often, to follow their husband’s career, than men do following their wives and their career. There is something authentic and loving about this type of self-sacrifice from which we can learn in the journey of accepting who we are. The very first step in any coaching is accepting who you are, and only then understanding what you want. Without knowing what are your impulses and desires, you will never be able to tell genuinely what it is that you want to be and where it is that you want to get to.
I don’t mean of course that we should demean ourselves for the men in our lives. The truth of the matter is that most of the famous stories I just told you about ended badly for the women. Medea, for instance, was left by her husband (the one she sacrificed everything for) so he could marry another more suited wife for him in order to better his kingship. Maria Callas, was in a relationship with the man she loved only for a little while before the famous Aristotle Onassis left her for Jackie Kennedy. She never managed to return to her singing heights, however, after the break up and died alone: her sacrifice leaving her living an isolated life and without children. Yet, when she was asked why she did not protect her voice and sacrificed so much for him, she replied “I have been trying to fulfil my life as a woman.”
Still from the film “Mirror Has Two Faces”
Women who sacrifice everything end up hurting the most seems to be the obvious lesson from these stories. But is it? Can we as women be so brave and say out loud, with full responsibility and pride that what we actually crave the most in life is to love and not to be alone? What we really want, more than anything, is to be cared for and loved by our partners. Socrates claimed that in the realm of physical love humans work as only halves only eternally looking for the person to fill them up.
It seems clear that radical actions of sacrifice for love such as those made my Medea or Maria Callas are damaging. But why not for a change consider our womanhood as Maria Callas expresses and accept that maybe we can sacrifice a bit for love and in equal measure keep ourself strong. If we accept from the beginning that love is really what we all need we might allow ourselves to live a more well rounded life without the need to sacrifice everything.
You know when you work really really hard, put your whole heart to it, and then one day you see the reaping fruits of your hard work and they taste soooo good! Well I can’t help but boast about the most wonderful news I just received…
The other day I sent a former client of mine a happy birthday wish. This was a client who I’d always really liked and who had spent the two months we intensively worked together working really hard on finding love. I’d been really proud of her progress and how far she’d come, but she’d had a personal family issue that had come up and so had asked to take a break due to personal family circumstances. Work with my other clients and part-time studies (then hypnotherapy) kept me busy and before I knew it several years had gone by. I was wondering what had happened to her because I couldn’t believe for a moment that she had just given up – it was much unlike her… Yet, what I found out the other day with my happy birthday wish has exceeded my expectations. Apparently, during the coaching period, she had met someone… and they’d just returned some weeks back from their honeymoon!
What intrigued me the most was her words about how they met, “it was really quick, as we both just knew”. This is a pattern I see often with my clients who really work towards this goal of finding love. What this demonstrates, first of all, is that the person is really ready and ripe to receive love. It worked precisely as written in my Attract Authentic Love Program (found on www.JuliaKeller.co.uk). It works so quickly because once you are trully ready to receive love, love will meet you half way.
Sometimes you may not know what it is that you really need at the moment… or you may send it mixed messages. That’s why all of this is covered in the first part of my coaching: Working on becoming the best version of you and truly valuing yourself (so that you teach others to also value you). Then follows the second part: Visualizing in your ideal love so that the universe knows exactly who to send you. Much of what I share with readers may sound like theory, but there is hidden logic and structure behind coaching packages because it is all about structuring your mindset in a healthy manner.
I have to say, that this particular client of mine, was especially dedicated, read my book and did all the work I gave her which again showed her determination. Her preferred practice was visualisation, hence we did a lot of those (this was before I was doing hypnotherapy even). I used to guide her to picture her future life with someone special, and in the end she really did step into that future (that’s why “it just felt right” when it happened). If we never step out of our past, we will never know what the future holds for us. Our past determines where we have come to up to now, but it is our opportunity for something better going forward too.
Everything begins when you take that first step to believe in Love again, knowing that you want to share your life with someone special. After that first step, any work that might follow, be it coaching, looking after one’s look or so on will be so much more pleasurable. This client’s story is not the first marriage that I have under my belt and it can happen to anyone who is willing to work and finally step out of their past into the future they really want.
If you want to arrange a free 30 minute call with Julia to find out how you too can move towards the happy, fulfilled future that you really want, book in here:
If you’ve just returned to dating after an absence, or if you’ve been disappointed in the past because you’ve jumped into bed too quickly, and hence the relationship you had high hopes for, seemed to fade just as quickly, then you may want to read this newsletter.
Yes we’ve covered this topic before in the past. But, to be fair, this is really one of the questions I get asked the most when people hear that I’m a Love Coach, so I’m covering this topic again.
To be frank, this is an area which has always had a sexist divide. Though women are now (obviously) not expected any longer to be virgins on their wedding night, they are still discouraged from indulging in too many sexual partners, while men don’t suffer from the same prejudice and are often even encouraged (by the “guys” and locker room talk) to be more sexually active and adventurous. The fact is that, as women, we are, as the ones being entered during a sexual connection, the ones who have to be more careful with who we allow to enter and any repercussions that may result. We are also much more likely to be judged harshly for being too “easy” by both men and women alike if we indulge too often. The amount of times that men have told me that they decided not to see a woman they went to bed with quickly again because (as they put it) “who else is she going to bed with just as quickly?” is enough to drive me wild with the injustice. After all, isn’t he jumping into bed just as quickly with her?
As a woman, I have always been very consciously aware of this double standard and the need to be careful. I also get how easy it could be, especially when lonely or just in need, to jump in too quickly, either in a phase of self destruction (convinced that nothing can harm us), in a moment of lacking self respect (when we don’t care enough to protect ourselves), in a time of pure need (when our body just craves that kind of touch), or in a moment of naive trust (when we believe he means well even if he’s just following his desires).
The fact is that as women we decide who we Open the gates to and when. In this concern, I still believe that traditional values (with a modern twist) remain the most attractive and in fact the healthiest. What I mean by this is that it is healthier and wiser to wait a bit before jumping into bed with that hot new prospect. Why not get to know him first and see what he’s really like. Is he just an attractive guy who knows how to charm the pants off of you (literally) but will disappear once he’s had his fill or his immediate needs met, or is he a good guy who actual wants to create something real with you? The only way to find out for sure is to wait before you “get jiggy with it”. I promise you that if he actually really likes you for you, and not just because you’re an instant solution to meeting his needs, he’ll be ok with waiting until you’re ready. And if he isn’t, well trust me you’re better off without him anyway as he probably was never planning on sticking around in the first place. Feel good you dodged a bullet and didn’t let a man like that inside you only to be hurt later.
Keep in mind, however, that just because you’ve resolved to wait to have sex, it doesn’t mean that the men in your life will stop trying to hurry you (nor should they). If you’re a sexually attractive woman, men you meet will always be thinking about having sex with you (enjoy it; it’s a compliment). Soon after your first or second or third date with a man, he will likely make a move towards sex, or hint that he’s interested in it; this is natural and a good sign that he is attracted to you. This is a moment when you can set your values, and should never be afraid that you will lose him by not going for it just because he’s pushing you. Only one type of man won’t wait and that’s a Player
A good guy who wants you for you, and wants something real with you, will wait to be with you. Take this opportunity and test his intentions. With a bit of self reservation and self control, not only can you present yourself as a woman who values herself but actually help him to get to know you better first, so that later when you do finally make love, it will not be just to fulfil a need or feed a hunger (leaving him just as quickly gone); but will rather be as it should always have been: to truly deepen the relationship.
As you may already know, I’m a strong believer in collaboration and hence reach out to work together with quite a few other therapists and practitioners, especially those on the cutting edge of their field or doing something particularly interesting and that’s you all can benefit from. So it is with great delight that I introduce you to Will Greenhouse: a unique this coach with a truly original work title: “Change Coach”.
Since the start of my own practice some years back, collaboration with other therapists and coaches has always been an integral part of our ethos and has led to incredible connections, friendships and benefits for my clients. I greatly enjoy speaking with these amazing practitioners, hearing their stories and providing my readers with the knowledge of the vast variety of coaching services that I am fortunate enough to come in contact with. Often these are enriching and life changing. Sometimes, in fact, we are not even aware of an issue we are faced with day to day until someone else eloquently articulates it.
William Greenhouse is one such person. He uses a fascinating technique to swiftly encourage change in his clients. Watch him describe what he does in the video below.
” Your unconscious mind runs everything, all your bodily functions, from regulating your heartbeat to managing your immune system, processing all the information that comes in through your senses and much more. Sometimes it is advantageous to communicate directly with it” ~ Will Greenhouse
Looking at the news these days, admittedly, it is hard to stay calm. I have two young, beautiful daughters who with curious eyes ask me what is happening in Syria and why there is still so much war and fighting in the world. Both of them, when given the opportunity to make wishes, wish innocently for “world peace”. As a mother, I sometimes don’t know what to say to these innocent wishes. Surely I too can still remember the day when I too believed in the possibility of World Peace. And still much of what I do now has the aim of bringing enough happiness into this often lonely world so that through the “butterfly effect” we create a kinder, more loving world to live in.
This week it seems that spring time is finally coming to London: trees are blossoming with colourful flowers and grass is growing greener everyday. With the sun warming my face and people looking happier with the beginning bloom of spring, it can be hard to notice that a kind of madness seems to have taken over the world these past years. There is persistent war, incessant terrorism and a rise in overall violence. If that wasn’t enough, there are even children shooting other children and spouses killing each other. Not that violence is a new thing in our world of course, but how much of this kind of hate can we really stand?
We’ve had so many scares in the past decade, lived through terrorist attacks and constantly increasing incidences of instability, both in violence and in politics. Just in the past few years, we’ve chosen extreme politics as a cry for help to try to change this often crazy world, but so far it is not becoming less crazy.
We have no choice but to accept the times we live in and the complexity of issues surrounding us. We have to be able to open our eyes to the suffering of our time as well as to the world’s increasing loneliness and unhappiness, and through that acceptance turn our attention inwards and build that stability we seek from the outside, inside of us.
Perhaps it is only through acceptance and understanding of the nature of the world that we, humans, are ourselves responsible for creating, only then can true change occur and that change can only happen if it happens organically from within…
Imagine how much more our way the world will seen if we stop expecting others to change, behave better, be more rational and so on, but instead learn to accept them as they are (warts and all) and simply help them to become cognisant of their best selves so that they can reach and become that. We can also become our own stable pillars for ourselves, our children, family friends and the world. When the big picture starts to fail us, why don’t we try to narrow it down to what we have right in front of us and try to see the beauty of the world in that specific singularity: our child, our friends, our partner, our job, our home and, of course, ourselves.
“To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour”
William Blake
We may not have the power to stop war immediately or to put an end to terrorism or violent crime right away, but we have the power to strengthen ourselves in this sometimes painful dangerous world and find that safe haven within. Maybe our responsibility to humanity is to find strength to really grown from within, organically remove war from our own mentality and be victorious in that way.
On the practical side, if you struggle to stay calm, I always encourage my clients to allow themselves a few minutes of alone time, a time to shift the perspective through a little exercise of visualisation which you can see here : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfbTN-BMbWo&t=7s My Stress Management and Confidence Boosting practice is almost as busy as my Love Coaching practice now. And of course, part of staying strong to oneself includes staying healthy physically and mentally, which is why I’m a Holistic Therapist as well as a Love Coach. So to discuss how I can help you too, book a free 30 minute call with me here:
Sometimes we become lost and confused during our path in a certain direction and just need help finding “The Way Forward” again. Well recently I was asked to record some advice about love for one of UK Health Radio’s top shows called “The Way Forward”. You can listen to the very first episode here as Stewart asks me poignant questions about how someone can succeed in the vast complex world of love.
These days it feels like the world is so much more connected on one level but so much more disconnected on another. In fact, though we can follow what our friends are doing (and even eating) quite easily on Facebook and Instagram, we may not have actually spoken to them in months. Meeting someone now can be done with just a phone, but is the person we’re having a virtual relationship with (and getting excited about) even real outside our imagination and expectations? This interconnected world, rather than helping us to feel happier and more connected is instead leaving us feeling more alone and lonely than ever. And the consequences can be seen on the health decline of lonely people. The problem is, have we lost the skill of true connection now?
In this talk that I delivered at the Best You Expo in February, I discuss how we can learn to truly connect again and why we should (both for our health and our general happiness). And if after listening, you want my help to get you there, you can book a free 30 minute Love and Health Tune Up call with me at the link here.
As much as I enjoy holidays (of course who doesn’t!) I often dread the return to normal life with extra weight gain from too much enjoyment. Whether we go away for the holidays or not, the celebration of holidays is strongly associated with the pleasure of eating and that often carries with it weight gain. One such holiday, associated with yummy chocolate sweets, is just around the corner: Easter, accompanied with its’ entourage of Easter chocolate eggs and what nots…
So if you’re “forced” to eat chocolate anyway, why not eat it wisely and gain its’ many secret benefits rather than suffer with the negatives of weight gain.
1)Dark chocolate is an antioxidant!
Dark chocolate is loaded with organic compounds that are biologically active and function as antioxidants. These include polyphenols, flavanols, catechins, among others.
One study we looked at showed that cocoa and dark chocolate contained more antioxidant activity, polyphenols and flavanols than other fruits that were tested, including blueberries and Acai berries (both known for their high antioxidant activity). If you don’t know what the fuss about antioxidants really is: they are what’s needed to fight against free radicals which basically damage your cells. Hence they are protect you skin and fight the damage in your body. Of course our body produces both the free radicals and the antioxidants if left to its own devices. But stress, unhappiness, exposure to free radicals in the environment (pollution, unprotected sun, radiation, etc) and a poor diet basically leave our body at risk for more free radicals and fewer antioxidants which means problems with body and skin, diseases, illnesses, etc. A good, healthy diet and positive stress management helps us to produce more antioxidants to help match the free radicals.
2) Chocolate is a diet friendly food. Apparently dark chocolate (of a high enough percentage) can even suppress your cravings, which could help with healthy weight management.
Just to be clear normal packaged chocolate sweets and candy are very unhealthy and have little or no health benefits! They are packed with sugar, calories and have no nutritional value! Dark chocolate on the other hand is a great diet food because it “can satisfy your food cravings and sweet tooth. A study found that dark chocolate is more filling than milk chocolate, and it can help to reduce your cravings for fatty, sweet and salty foods. It doesn’t matter if you’re craving potato chips, tacos, or Jellybeans–a bit of dark chocolate (70% or more) will help to shut down your cravings.” (https://www.positivehealthwellness.com/diet-nutrition/12-proven-benefits-dark-chocolate-no-8-best/)
3) Chocolate increases your brain function.
Now that’s a special treat for all of you students out there, or just anyone who wants a good, functioning brain! Have you noticed that when you study hard or are engaged in work that demands a lot of brain activity, you find yourself craving sugar and chocolate? Your body is clever and knows to send you signals to crave the substances that can help your brain to re-boot “your brain, like all other parts of your body, requires oxygen and nutrients to survive and thrive. Dark chocolate helps to increase circulation and produce more red blood cells, which help your body to send more oxygen and nutrients to your brain”. Now that’s pretty clever, isn’t it!
So if you work in a intensive environment, or are intensively studying, have a bit of dark chocolate lying around and give your brain a break for a while nurturing its’ craving in a healthy way.
Ways to eat dark chocolate
Obviously not everyone enjoys dark chocolate, but considering the health benefits, isn’t it a taste that should to be acquired? We are used to highly sweetened, manufactured desserts that corrupted our natural taste buds. Dark chocolate is not sweet in the conventional sense, yet it is a nutritious and filling product that can easily work as a desert. Below a few ways in which I enjoy dark chocolate:
1) Shave 99% (really healthy) dark chocolate onto my morning yogurt bowl with fruits and home made granola.
2) Simply take a bite of a dark chocolate with coffee or tea.
3) Sweetened with a bit of fresh or dried fruits and raw or Manuka honey.
4) Baked into a dark chocolate gluten free brownie.
5) On of my PA’s favourite desert is also super nutritious: avocado and black chocolate mousse. It is so rich in flavour and texture you will never be able to tell that it is free from dairy! Check out the recipe here .
A side note:It’s always better to get good quality dark chocolate and work with, even if you mix raw honey with it for sweetness, rather than buying milk chocolate or processed chocolate of any kind (most commercial chocolate companies). Milk chocolate is highly processed and contains many harmful substances… Of course you can find expensive good milk chocolate but it will never be as nutritious for you as black chocolate is.
As some of you following my work and my newsletters may know, my business is changing significantly. For one, I’m not only calling myself a Love Coach but am now a Holistic Therapist too. You may be wondering what exactly this means and how this changes things with what I do. Well the best way to explain this seems to be by video. So to understand better what I mean by Holistic Therapist and how I can now help you better to reach your goals, click on the video below.
Have more questions about how exactly I can help you, book a free 30 minute call with me here
If you’ve been trying to lose weight and it hasn’t been working for you, it could be because of your diet, or it could be due to your lifestyle or just a general lack of fitness. But if you’ve tried quite a few things and are still struggling, then you may be missing this one key element that slim people already do naturally.
If weight management is an issue for you, watch this video I did on Facebook Live. Once you’ve watched it, if you feel you’d like some help to help you slim down, you may want to join my 8 week Weight Management program combining Hypnotherapy with NLP and Wellness Coaching to ensure you reach your weight goals. Need more information, book your free 30 minute call with me here
Have you ever worried whether that ideal love you want is really possible? Maybe you already have a relationship but it just isn’t exactly what you’d hoped for? Or perhaps you witness others around you seemingly happy in love but wonder if it’s possible for you as well?
But even if you’ve slightly given up and just learned to accept the status quo, you secretly long for a relationship that just feels amazing with someone who
Show up and is there for you when you need them
Is present as you share your thoughts, can hold a deep conversation, and even remembers what you said
Will wrap his or her arms around you, making you feel completely loved, nurtured, secure and confident that you are only for each other
Creates the space for you to show up as your authentic self and encourages you to go after your dreams
Believe me: you are worth all of this and and MORE; you just have to believe in LOVE again and have faith.
You deserve an amazing love story with someone who you truly admire and who adores you and wants to give you the things you don’t even know you need yet.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could have a LOVE BLUEPRINTto follow?
I am very excited to announce that I am collaborating with another Love Coach, Nicole Haley, in the US: aka The Relationship Navigator. She is launching a comprehensive online speaker series called Your Love Blueprint, starting March 5th, 2018, where you’ll hear from 21+ top international relationship experts (including yours truly) as they share their industry secrets such as:
How to trigger an emotional attraction so that you are seen as their one and only
How to identify what is blocking your success in love
How to read and understand the actions of the opposite sex and better understand their behaviors
Are you struggling to find the motivation to eat healthy? Need more reason to keep fit? Well apparently having a good waist-hip ratio isn’t just about being attractive; it actually determines your brain function in later years as well. Research states that the bigger your waist (as compared to your hips), the smaller the ability of your brain. That’s right, if it wasn’t already a good reason to exercise and eat right: in order to avoid obesity, diabetes, cancer, heart disease, etc; apparently being unfit and having a large waist circumference actually also predisposes you to brain issues such as Alzheimer’s, poor memory and even depression. And it also predisposes you to premature ageing (and looking as if you’ve prematurely aged). The ideal waist-hip ratio for beauty is around .74, which happens to also correspond with better health.
Although a claim that slim people have better brain function may sound unfair as well as a predicament that has the potential to set off yet unseen judgments, and although we must of course keep in mind body type which also predetermines body shape and curves, there is actually legitimate explanation to this strange (somewhat unfair) claim.
Dr Perlmutter, in his book “the Grain Brain” claims that waist ratio determines our brain function. Yes this is what he says, providing a clear explanation. There are two important things to take into consideration: firstly the matter of “waist”; and secondly that of “ratio”. The importance of waist as opposed to certain other parts of the body, is key. The waist is where many of our delicate organs are located. It is not an accident that the phrase refers to waist circumference and not to the overall slimness of a person.
Dr Perlmutter also claims in the same book that gluten, sugar and carbs can lead to fatal disease and damages to our brain. The food we eat and allow to digest and travel through our gut has a huge effect on the overall system of our body and especially on brain function. Just because our brain is not located in the stomach does not mean it is not affected by the stomach or the belly area.
Optimal health, therefore, comprises of the following: healthy food and healthy organs doing their job well. What we ingest is key in this equation because it has the power to dull our organs and stop our brain from functioning optimally. In order for our precious organs to function properly, they need to work to the best of their ability: free of extra weight, bacteria, inflammation etc… It’s simple really: you can walk up the stairs far easier only carrying yourself than if you had to carry your younger sister or brother with you as well. Therefore, having healthy and lean tissue around the organs is necessary for the healthy function of the organs and in also the healthy function of the brain! The waist area — including the heart, lungs, abdomen, etc have to stay lean and healthy whereas some extra pounds on our thighs or bum might not lead to anything disastrous. Hence the lean waist helping our brain function better. It is not just that lean waist is healthier because it looks nice to some… no it is because it holds all of our precious organs and we need to make a nice and habitable environment for the organs to thrive.
Secondly, about the ratio: If you are naturally a bigger person, no one expects you to have a unreasonably thin waist no matter how much you exercise and starve. You should never starve! While it is about the waist size, it is NOT ABOUT THE WAIST SIZE per se. Everything is in moderation to yourself. However, having said this, some people, especially women have bodies that are inclined to gain wait around the waist area. These women unfortunately might have to struggle more to burn that fat around the organs. I’m one of them, by the way, and while one nice repercussion is naturally bigger breasts, it also means more work to maintain the healthy waist-hip ratio. When it comes to health unfortunately, half of it is what we are born with, therefore we always have to work with what we have.
I, for example, take care to maintain a healthy ratio through what I eat and regular exercise, despite having had two kids (which definitely makes the work of maintaining a slim waist more challenging). Many answers to our weight problems come from little daily habits that our clever minds automatically disregard as problematic. For example, what one biscuit a day can do… or one unhealthy chocolate bar after a super healthy salad lunch, if taken regularly can actually work against us. Eating very fast, or snacking before lunch as well. Basically there are a lot of of little habits that one might not be able to register in themselves… Therefore, it is important to really observe how one lives, eating patterns and all the small little things one does in order to lose weight or gain weight for that matter consciously and not through vain diets.
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This past week was Valentine’s Day, and just a few days after that I had the privilege of speaking at the Best You Expo. My chosen topic this year was about Loneliness and how it can be cured by Connection, giving people 3 proven tips on how to truly Connect with someone special. Why I’m writing this right now is because I was absolutely Blown Away by the response to the topic. Not only was my room absolutely filled to the max (with some people even standing because of lack of seats), but there was a huge resonance for the topic of loneliness and the majority of the audience admitted to feelings of loneliness either occasionally or regularly (and it was an audience of mixed ages). When doing research for this topic, I found some pretty dire statistics about loneliness that certainly matched the reaction of the audience.
So what’s going on? Why are we, as a culture, so much lonelier than we’ve ever been? And what can we do about it? Well, as I mentioned in my speech about the topic, the trick to beating loneliness is through truly Connecting with others. So here’s a brief video we made for this Monday’s “10 Minutes to Healthy Living” which summarizes some of what was discussed in that speech to help you towards true Connection.
Tomorrow is the 14th of February, otherwise known in so many parts of the world now as that special equally cherished as dreaded day of lovers: Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is as much a day that some couples look forward to celebrating their love during as other couples dread being forced to celebrate. Singles too hide out in droves hoping to avoid feeling even more alone than usual for the feelings of lack of love that it stirs up.
From having seen my business double or triple around Valentine’s Day as a Love Coach — either helping unhappy couples to find happiness again, or (more likely) helping singles to find the love they’ve been struggling to find — to now witnessing the holiday from another point of view as a Holistic Therapist (seeing love and connection as one part of several that aids health); I’ve now come to see that what Valentine’s Day really needs is a significant rebrand. I know what you’re thinking: why would anyone want to rebrand a holiday that is so lucrative financially for so many companies in the various love industries?
The problem with Valentine’s Day is that it is “the Great Divider”. It divides couples into those who love to celebrate and those who dread the idea of it. It divides pairs into the one who has high hopes and expectations of Valentine’s Day and the one who’s doing something about it just because it has to be done (I think most of us can guess the sexual divide in that situation). And it divides people in general into those who look forward to celebrating Valentine’s Day and those who run away and hide from it.
In fact, the holiday begins to divide already in High School (or Secondary School), at least in the US. I remember distinctly the dread that would rise within me when Valentine’s Day cards were given out in class when I was in High School in the US. As an immigrant, and a foreigner, I’d moved around a lot in those days depending on where my parents needed to settle for work at the time, and I was very shy, so my friendship numbers were limited and I held onto the fear that no one at all would send me a Valentine’s Day card. I remember how nice it felt when there was a card delivered to me. It was from a new friend I’d just made recently, and that was the beginning of a friendship that lasted for years, where both of us knew that no matter what we always had a card from each other.
So perhaps that’s the lesson to be taken and the rebrand to be made. Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day of love, but there is nothing at all limiting love to just the one sweetheart in our lives — just as love in general shouldn’t be limited to just “the one”. In fact, our hearts are big and love is plentiful, though we love different people in different ways. We can love our Partner in one way and love our kids in a different way. We can love our friends in one way and love our parents, siblings and close family in a different way. Love thrives where it is given and blossoms where it is allowed to bloom. The more love we give, the more another love can thrive. We must allow our hearts to exercise this love in order to feel the freshness andyouthfulness of love thriving within us.
So let’s make Valentine’s Day a day to show love to all: including to ourselves. That little spark of love begins with the love we pay to our own hearts. That little faith in finding love begins with showing that love we seek to our own self. And for those who feel down on love, who have grown bitter with the disappointment of it’s lack — to those who grow old before their time because they only focus on love alluding them and only see that which they lack — to them too I want to give a sprinkle of faith again. There is nothing that can give you love as much as the simple faith in its’ arrival, even if it seems to have eluded you up until this point. Remember that Faith is what you have when sometimes it’s all you have. That’s why it’s called faith after all.
Sometimes there’s a bigger picture to a bigger story that we’re just a piece of playing around us. A wise friend of mine, upon being questioned for different distinctions of how he loved one over another recently said that love was such a vast subject: “Greater philosophers than me couldn’t agree on the specific aspects of love”. The thing about love is that you don’t have to understand it to feel it; you simply have to allow your heart the belief in possibility and the faith in that possibility becoming a reality.
So if you feel that the love you seek is still not there, use Valentine’s Day as a way to channel it in. Need help to do this? Schedule a free 30 minute call with me to show you how I can help you to love yourself better, to feel better in the love you have and to channel true love into your life. Because we all deserve love and true connection.
You’ve had quite a few different newsletters from me in the past weeks loaded with content and information. So this week, I’m giving you a nice and easy one packed instead with some ready-made relaxing help: a guided visualisation. Did you know that visualisation not only helps athletes and performers perform better, but it also can boost confidence, help you to achieve your goals faster, help you to overcome fears and anxieties, make you happier and more productive, helps you to boost inspiration and creativity and so much more. Plus visualisation has been linked with helping terminally ill people (including Cancer patients, stroke victims, heart attack sufferers and others to miraculously get well again). I would say that visualisation is pretty much the magic we’ve been searching for. But don’t just take my word for it, check out this article I found about the benefits of visualisation if you need more proof, along with countless others you can find by googling the topic: http://www.mydomaine.com/benefits-of-visualization
So now here’s your chance to try visualising out for yourself: close your eyes, sink into your chair, bed or wherever you might be listening to this and allow you mind to take you wherever it feels you need to go. This is your time to let go, calm down, take a break, dream, visualise and elevate your mood … If you don’t believe that a short 10 minute visualisation can do so much for you, just watch (or rather listen to) the video and try it out for yourself. And once you’re beaming with the newfound felt empowering feeling of being able to create the future that you want for yourself, spread the love by sharing the video (and my website) with your friends.
UK Health radio also has its own magazine dedicated to healthy lifestyle, where you can find an article I wrote about finding love.
