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Why to add some raw food to your diet

Hey there!
Recently I chose to do a Raw Food Diet for a week for my Nutrition course. While I struggled most of the way with this not so easy diet, I have to admit that there were some pretty cool benefits. Among the benefits noticed was that it was almost impossible not to lose weight: eating vegetables and fruits and nuts and seeds after all is pretty much guaranteed to help you trim down (well unless you eat bucketfuls). Another great benefit was how great my digestion felt: after all, all that fiber is great for your tummy. But the best benefit of all was how great my skin looked.
Friends and people who knew me asked about my new beauty regimen. Strangers who I met thought I was in my twenties. Let’s just say my eldest just became a teenager, so I am definitely NOT in my twenties. The youngest I was told I was in the last couple of years before starting my Nutrition course was early thirties, so being told I was a whole decade younger was definitely a great benefit! So even though eating only raw food doesn’t work for me long-term (I really like cooked food), I will definitely add more raw food into my diet, and especially much more plant-based food. So what is it about raw food that so many people swear by? Well according to raw foodists, eating food raw preserves the natural health benefits of the wonderful vitamins, minerals and enzymes of the food which cooking often kills or interferes with. That’s why I recommend clients to add fresh fruit and vegetables into their diet, even if mixed with cooked food as well. In fact some claim that lightly steaming food still leaves most of the benefits as well, so mixing it up might be best of all and definitely more interesting for your diet than to simply eat raw. However the idea definitely is to include much fresh fruit and vegetables into your diet.
Here’s a great raw vegan cheesecake recipe for you to enjoy, even if you’re not that into raw food just yet.

https://lovingitvegan.com/raw-strawberry-cheesecake/

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Stress: Fear Of The Unknown

Last week I introduced the topic of stress, and defined it partially as us being out of flow with life. This includes the experience of frustration, when everything seems to be going against us. In one way, it feels more like the external world is out of flow with us… But in reality, it is us who are out of flow with life, not because it just so happens to be one of those days, but because, somewhere internally, our wants and needs are out of flow from our actual life situation. In reality, stress could be a useful bodily reaction that protects us, an instinct which is inprinted in us from millions of years ago when stress would be our response to a truly dangerous situation, such as seeing a tiger ready to pounce. Only now, our stress is caused not by the tiger, but by little things that do not threaten our life but only impact on a seemingly important moment of it. But our body reacts to it as though it is a life or death situation.

To understand more of what I mean, have a look at Part 2 of the Stress mini series. And if you need help conquering that stress, you can book a free 30 minute session with me here:  https://WellnessSession.as.me/

Stress: why you have it & how to cope better

Hi there!
 I am starting summer with a very special and necessary two episode series all about stress.
Remember those days when everything seems to be out of flow? You are commuting to work (for example) and all of the lights turn to red as if the universe is trying to make you late; or the tube is running with extra delays or you just miss your train and find the next one cancelled… You rush into a coffee shop to get the first coffee of the day, but the machine breaks down just as you are about to buy it, or there’s an extra slow new server on. You run to work and your boss, who usually comes a tad late, just today decided to come in exactly on time and sees you arriving late?
Yes this is a typical day when you are out of flow and you are in stress. What do you do? How can you help yourself to change that and can you? Watch my Part 1, of the two episode series on Stress (and look out for Part 2 next week): what it is, how to cope with it and how stress is even linked with sugar cravings!

Feel as if you are relate to this and need some help to help you handle stress so that it does not handle you? Book a free 30 min session with me to discuss your options.

Why learning to connect with others is good for your health

We work very hard to be successful, to grow at a job, to find love even. There are books that teach us how to be confident, to be fearless, to seize the moment, to eat better, etc. While these are all of course very important for our personal development, what I find as a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist, to be far, far more important both to humanity and to our personal health is being able to truly connect with others.
Feeling lonely and alienated and divided from the world is the cause of many people’s true I’ll health issues. After all, it is widely known that disease can manifest or be cured in the mind. The feeling of having no one to reach out to, of being unable to connect makes us feel unhappy, unloved, uncared for and as if we having nothing to live for. Some of my clients manifested this by being overweight because of comfort eating, others struggled with long-term chronic issues because that was something tangible that brought them the comfort of at least medical professionals taking a momentary interest in them. You can be all alone and yet well connected with yourself and others, therefore not feeling lonely. The lack of connection is when you still feel somewhat lonely even amongst your friends, even with your partner or even when there should be no reason for this feeling; yet you feel it anyway. 
Recently, I offered to watch a small dog for a friend of mine who went away. My kids have been asking me for a dog for a long time and I thought that watching him would be a great test to see if they could truly be responsible to take care of a pet. What I discovered, however, surprised even me. Not only were my kids exceptionally mature and great at caring for the dog, but even the little negatives of having to care for this pet didn’t detract from the amazing positives that came with having him. He was constantly full of love and excitement at seeing us every time we came home and he brought us even closer together as we bonded over walking him and had to find fun and active days out that he too would enjoy. Plus, the best part was how easily he made it for us to meet strangers everywhere we went. As an adorable dog that strangers everywhere seemed to want to befriend, we finally met our new neighbours and the other people around us who too have dogs. Plus we befriended people in cafes, on the tube, just walking down a toad, etc. 
My point here is that if you are lonely, whether because you’re actually alone or in a relationship where you find yourself unable to connect, it may just take a simple twist in your usual pattern that makes a difference and changes everything. Whether it’s getting a dog (there are loads of rescue dogs that need homes by the way, or you can foster one temporarily and all dog food and care is paid for) or starting a new mediation class or just joining any kind of club or even taking a language or dance class: there are so many ways to change your usual pattern in life and to get yourself unstuck. 
If you want help or some ideas, you can book a free call with me  here .

Back to certainty !

Hey there,
Before I was a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist, I was a Transformational Love Coach. That was some years back when the Brexit vote had just happened and when we were then, much like now, in a state of uncertainty and flux over what would happen in our future.
The fact is that the only thing that really changed between then and now is that we’re some years older. Unfortunately, that certainty that we hoped the politicians would provide us is even less certain than it was when I first made this video. The learning, however, is the same: no one can provide us with certainty as life generally is uncertain. So the only way forward is through our own achievement. We must become our own anchor in a life where we can so easily float away on so many different levels, paths and agendas.
Being “well” in life relies on feeling grounded in ourselves even if not in the universe around us. Hence this video on how to deliver our own certainty is just as timely now to our overall well-being as it was then.

Are you compromising too much?

I would like to kick off my new Wellness Series not so far from the topics I have been mostly known for: love and relationships. When I speak of being a Wellness Specialist, many assume that I focus on tackling issues such as insomnia, stress, and weight loss. While those are core issues that I help people with — along with helping them towards that feel-good vitality that has alluded them for a while, a core part of my work is very much centered around the core work I was doing when I was calling myself a Love Coach: helping them to achieve the loving relationships they crave.

Our private lives are, after all, the driving forces of quality in our life. There has been sufficient research to showcase how the lack of relationships (ie: loneliness) can be incredibly detrimental to health. But what about the feeling of losing yourself to your partner? We all know that when we are in love, and receive love back, the world is indeed a better place. We feel more energized and bloom in all aspects of our lives. Equal in power, however, is the feeling of being in a toxic relationship: something I have seen over and over again from my clients. As exciting as a relationship that feels full of balance and growth can feel; so equally devastating (albeit eating away at us slowly) can a relationship where we lose ourselves and what we desire feel. Therefore I would like to offer you a quick video on one of the most toxic aspects of a relationship: too much compromise. If you feel any of the scenarios described resonate with you, it may be time to change few things…

You can find more on this topic in my book: “Attract Authentic Love”, which you can purchase on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2HsrqvQ.

If you feel that you would like want a lengthier discussion one on one, and are not sure if your relationship is doomed and you are ready to make radical changes, you can schedule a one hour skype session with me to discuss specific issues or book a free 30 minute discovery call here: https://WellnessSession.as.me/

Wellness Series

Get ready for wellness!

For those of you who have been keeping up with my newsletters, you probably have noticed the move towards a focus on Wellness. Our 10 minutes Facebook live series is now called “10 Minutes to Wellness  (find ithere)  and we are currently launching a Wellness series of newsletters geared towards helping you and your loved ones to live healthier in the three key areas. These areas are Physical (feeling good in your body which should feel good and keep you healthy); Mental (ie: good mental health, managing stress, sleeping well, etc); and Emotional (feeling satisfied in your life and where you’re heading & having a good support network of friends, loved ones, community and even that someone special).

In the upcoming newsletters, I’ll be sharing with you what you need to stay “well” in life for longer life. This means what you need to look and feel great no matter what your age. I think in modern day living we surrender to the idea that getting older means allowing our bodies to crumble and to abandon us, our memories and minds to deteriorate and our chances for happy relationships to dwindle. Well in the course of my work, I’ve met so many people who proved this wrong that I know it isn’t true. I’ve met women and men who live healthy and medicine free well into their 80s, 90s and even beyond. My own great grandmother in fact lived almost until 102 and she wasn’t on any medication before she passed away just weeks before her birthday. My father, who’s over 60 is healthy, happy and works and lives as fully as a 30 year old. He and my mother have a happy successful marriage and a great network of family and friends. My father also is pursuing his life work which he loves and is passionate about and still studies and learns new techniques for his practice regularly. I recently met a woman who basically partied away her twenties, thirties and forties. It was only in her late fifties that she realized that she actually wanted to settle down and get married. Guess what, she married for the first time ever on her 65th birthday!

I constantly meet people who are healthy and look great well into their older years. Unfortunately, I also meet the opposite: people who are unhealthy even in their teens, twenties, thirties and forties. Cancer, heart disease, diabetes and obesity are claiming not just the elderly anymore. People are dying younger and feeling ill younger. Those in their teens are feeling already the effects of stress and not knowing how to manage it, as well as depression, anxiety and even insomnia. Therese aren’t just ailments of adults even anymore! So how do we manage life better and help our children to do so? Well with my current studies in Nutrition and Naturopathy, this has become my interest and my obsession. I will attempt, through my own learning, to reveal what I learn to you here. Stay tuned.

Its Time To Talk To Strangers

To Start with we are all strangers!

Do you remember once upon a time when your mother was there to look after you and keep you safe? Do you remember when she taught you some important advice that was meant to protect you? Well, as a mother myself, I know that she meant well, but perhaps it isn’t doing you any favors in your social life. So perhaps it’s time to let that advice go and do something different. Have a watch at what I mean here.

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“Nothing is stranger or more ticklish than a relationship between people who know each other only by sight, who meet and observe each other daily – no hourly – and are nevertheless compelled to keep up the pose of an indifferent stranger, neither greeting nor addressing each other, whether out of etiquette or their own whim.” – Thomas Mann

Why is Valentine’s Day So Important?

As a former Love Coach, and even now as a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist, when I start talking about Valentine’s Day, I have many people balking about it and complaining about a forced day to celebrate couples. Some even go as far as calling it “cheesy” or “a waste of time”. While I respectfully disagree of course, I do understand how some can judge the day so harshly, particularly if they are feeling lack in that area, either because they are alone or are unhappy in the relationship they’re in.
The thing about Valentine’s Day that makes it important, however, isn’t that it is a day just to celebrate couples. The day, in fact, is to celebrate Love overall, whether romantic or not. Whether we like it or not, having some form of Love in our lives is actually necessary for good health. There are constant articles and research coming out telling us that loneliness is detrimental for health. In fact, you can find quite a few such articles and videos on both my website and my YouTube channel. In Naturopathy, we learn that full healthy balance relies on health in three main areas: our mind, our heart and our gut. So full health can only exist if all three are looked after (I would add with exercise and looking after our bodies as well).
So having a day to celebrate Love and to remind us about the importance of having some kind of Love in our lives seems pretty key. But celebrating Love isn’t just for couples. We should celebrate the Love we feel for our friends, our family, our community and even a higher power. Why not use Valentine’s Day to reconnect with people we haven’t spoken to in a while and to celebrate our feelings of happiness for knowing them. When I was in high school many years back, before my close friends and I started dating, we would send Valentine’s Day chocolates and cards to each other on Valentine’s Day and write each other lovely cards to remind each other how much our friendship meant. When you’re a teenager and going through that time of feeling misunderstood and unloved as hormones are rampant, sometimes such a card from a close friend is enough to change the entire outlook of your day into a happy one.
So this Valentine’s Day, instead of hiding or rolling your eyes at the fact that you have to get through an entire day of smoochy couples and people asking you if you are doing something tonight, why not instead celebrate the fact that Love exists and that it is still our greatest weapon against hate and crimes of hate as well as against loneliness. And meanwhile, if you are one part of a couple, why not celebrate that as well and the fact that you’re still together against all odds, and remember what it was that brought you two together in the first place. Remember how beautiful your love once was and it can be again. Happy Valentine’s Day!
And if you’re on your own and would like to meet someone but don’t know how, why not invest a bit in either my book (https://amzn.to/2DqAE8d) or my online product (http://juliakeller.co.uk/attract-authentic-love) (or both) and let me help you towards Love.

Want to be fit but hate the gym, watch this video!

Hey there!
As someone who’s totally into keeping fit and eating right these days (but for whom maybe this wasn’t always the case), I totally get that everyone has their own level of how much they are willing to do to keep themselves healthy and attractive and feeling great before it begins to feel like too much of a chore. Hey I get it! And I’m sure every one of us slips into bad habits at times (after all Christmas eating is just a few weeks behind us).
Well, now that it’s New Years and we’re filled with New Year’s resolutions we should hold onto at least some of those “get fit this year” plans. I do understand that getting fit, especially when the weather is cold and damp and the sky is grey or dark can feel too much like hard work if what’s required is going out after a long day to get to the gym. Believe me, I get you! That’s why I have some alternative suggestions of how to get fit without the need of using the gym at all (it’s much easier than you think).
Here’s a Facebook Live I did some time ago that was very popular on our page. If you like it, please do subscribe and like our page.
And if you want some help with getting up your willpower to succeed in getting into shape and eating right for 2019, you can book a free call with me on this link

Milk: is it really good or bad for you?

Hey there!
As someone who’s become so interested in Nutrition that I decided to study the subject (and am in my second of three years at the moment), I’ve certainly been on the receiving end of many opinions and questions concerning the debate on milk and whether we should or shouldn’t be drinking it. To be fair, the milk debate is not new. You’ve probably noticed the proliferation of “milk alternatives” such as soya, coconut and almond milk both in your local supermarket and also in your local Starbucks and other chain coffee shop. 
But despite the many not so great findings about milk that are being released year on year since the milk debate first began,  the die-hard milk lovers will still point to milk-drinking benefits, such as calcium and milk’s help in bone development. So how do they answer some of the not so favorable milk research that actually states that milk may actually be a causal factor towards Osteoperosis (the disease where your bone density goes down common among post-menopausal women) rather than helpful in preventing it and some very sketchy data coming out of late stating that milk companies may have known about some pretty scary milk issues for years that they kept well-hidden? So is milk then good or bad for you and for bone growth and sustainability? Perhaps the only thing we know for sure is that cow milk is definitely good for the growth of baby cows; we, however, are notbaby cows! So before you order that latte, take some time to read the article below.

If you’re struggling with Insomnia, here are some tips to get to sleep naturally

Some of you may have noticed that I’ve been on a pretty cool radio show from Resonance FM called “The Naked Short Club” several times already answering calls from distressed Bankers. Well, I’m sharing one from some time back with a question from a caller who suffers from Insomnia. As a Hypnotherapist, I often have clients coming to me asking me for help to get them to sleep again naturally. So I thought I’d share the answer to one of the questions that came up about how to tackle Insomnia naturally. Here are three quick tips to get you started.

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How to tackle insomnia naturally:

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1. Check your daily caffeine intake.

If insomnia is a regular issue, cut down on any caffeine (that includes coffee, black tea, chocolate and even green tea if you’re still struggling), especially after 3pm. Also, consider lowering how many cups you have a day. While a cup a day is probably not an issue (depending on your constitution of course) — and even 1-3 cups may be normal and find for many people — anything over six cups a day is definitely a sign that something needs to change. Remember that coffee increases your heart rate and basically mimics the stress response. You may be masking burned out adrenals with way too much caffeine and the end result may be trouble getting yourself down to sleep at night. This then creates a vicious circle as you then again need coffee the next day to keep you going and again find yourself having trouble sleeping, and so on. Need help cutting down and getting healthy again? Book a free call with me on the link below.
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2. Calm your mind for bedtime.

If you’ve cut down your caffeine intake, but still can’t sleep, the issue may be in your mind and you may need to learn to relax first. A calming meditation practice is a wonderful way to dose off. There are plenty of apps out there to help you zonk out at night, and even playlists on YouTube and Spotify. But if you’re still struggling or don’t know how to get started, think about seeking out a Hypnotherapist to help you get to sleep. To book a free 30 minute call with me about how I can help, click on the link below.
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3. Keep to a working bedtime routine.

A healthy bedtime routine isn’t just for kids anymore. If you want to get to sleep easier each evening, stick to a relaxing routine at bedtime. Eliminate anything that keeps you awake, such as late-night eating and even evening exercise or showers (opt for a calming bath instead). Also eliminate late night technology which has been shown to disturb sleep. And for a really nice bedtime routine, try adding lavender essential oil or crushed flowers to your evening bath. It’s no surprise that lavender is added to so many children’s products, as it’s known for its’ calming properties. It works for adults too, so if you’re struggling, try it (yes you guys too!).

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Want to be fit but hate the gym? Watch this video.

As someone who’s three main areas of focus working with clients are Wellness, Confidence & Connection, you can bet that I have quite a lot to say about getting healthy and fit. In fact, the other day, I was at a bar and met some random people who asked me about what I do. When I told them, they very excitedly (and mistakenly) asked about how they too can get more healthy. Well, as I’m studying Nutrition these days and pretty obsessed with being fit, it may not have been the best timing to ask me such a question, as I definitely have quite a lot to say on the topic.
But the reason I’m writing this is to address one of the questions that one of these people asked me: “I want to be fit, but I really hate going to the gym. How do I do what’s good for my body while also not having to do what I hate?” Well, if you’re reading this right now, firstly let me apologize for all of the extra information about what you shouldn’t be eating and doing (smoking, partying too hard every night, eating food that’s highly processed and full of sugar, drinking coke) that you had to sit through that evening. To make up for it, here’s part of the answer to your question about how you can get more fit without having to hit the gym. (You’re welcome!) ;->
If you need more help, by the way, staying fit and eating better, you can schedule a free call with me on the link below to find out how I can help you too to look and feel great.

How much fruit and vegetables should you actually eat for health? Find out here!

As someone who helps clients with towards peak Mind-Body, Personal & Professional Interactions and who is studying both Nutrition and Naturopathy, I often get asked by clients who want to be more healthy (or who are trying to slim down), what the ideal number of fruits and vegetables that they should eat is.
Well, up to now, the accepted idea was that “five a day” was the healthy ideal. In fact, we often see written on products being sold all over the place the message “one of your five a day”, so it’s no surprise that we assume that the “five a day” (meaning five portions a day of fruits and vegetables — mainly veggies by the way) is accurate and complete. So you can imagine my surprise to find a study published on the NHS website no less claiming that actually what we need to be eating is closer to “ten a day” to ensure our healthy survival and to significantly cut our chances of serious illnesses leading to premature aging or death. The main surprise, however, was that this study was more than a year old, but yet not much had changed in our beliefs around how many fruits and vegetables we should be eating daily. You can find the NHS article below.

https://www.nhs.uk/news/food-and-diet/five-a-day-of-fruit-and-veg-is-good-but-10-is-better/

For those who want to understand a bit more around what a “portion” actually is, the study states that we are safe with 800g of fruit and vegetables (concentrate on the vegetables) eaten daily. Portion size explanations for different fruit and vegetable sources can be found here:
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/5-a-day-portion-sizes/

Sometimes all it takes is 2 hours with an objective expert

Some time ago, I had a friend of mine reach out to me and ask me if her sister could meet with me as she was struggling in her relationship. I agreed of course and we proceeded to meet the three of us over dinner.
Her sister’s struggle as it happened was that she was in a relationship for over a year with a man she really loved and who she wanted very much to marry. She wanted to know what she could do to get him to propose to her (without actually having to propose herself). Up to then, she said, they hadn’t had any discussions about marriage and she was frustrated that her boyfriend hadn’t brought the matter up in all that time and that their relationship seemed to be floating by rather than moving forward towards a secured future.
Fast forward to today and a beautiful destination wedding some months back and a happy married couple later, and what we have is a wonderful success story. How long did it take to happen? Only two hours over dinner!
So why am I sharing this story? Well mainly because this isn’t the only client who has seen results in such a quick succession of time. Though the majority of my plans with clients are 3-6 months, I have had clients who’ve had incredible turnarounds from as little as a two hour session. I’ve also had quite a few clients who flew in from abroad to work with me everyday over the course of a week and who flew home to an incredible change in themselves, their self-perception and their self-belief and self-confidence. Finally, after feeling stuck in their lives for years, they could see light at the end of what once seemed a very long and dark tunnel. These clients went on to meet wonderful significant others and to become people who do wonderful things.
Could that be you next? Sometimes all it takes is two hours with an expert to change your fate and the course of your life; sometimes it takes more. How long will it take you? For your chance to understand how to change an area you’re stuck in, book a free 30 minute discovery call with Julia Keller here.

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If you’re feeling lonely, you’re not alone

Hey you,
 
The Guardian recently published an article under a great title, which you can see below. I’m glad to see that the narrative of loneliness is changing in our country. As someone who myself has experienced loneliness, and who has clients who come to see me because of it, I know how life and health deterring that sensation could be. Sometimes, when it’s really bad and you feel really alone, the sensation could be keeping you stuck and almost unable to do anything productive because of its’ weight on you. Ironically, what would heal your loneliness may be the last thing that you’d want to do at that moment: that of getting out there and going somewhere where you can meet people and change the course of that loneliness for good.
 
I was so surprised to read in the article that the word “loneliness” is a relatively recent addition to the English language. It seems to echo my personal belief that the changing aspects of society, which in so many ways are wonderful, they are also what makes loneliness so prevalent today (and much more so than a century ago for instance). Unfortunately, the growth of technology and our incredibly wonderful independence has led to an increase of loneliness. The fact that so many live longer lives too has meant a growth of loneliness in the elderly. Much of society these days has lost the value of keeping elderly with the family and caring for them until their last days, so we find that our chances of being lonely go up as we age.
 
No matter what your age, however, there are several things you can do to tackle loneliness. Here are a few ideas.
 
First of all, tackling loneliness requires proactively seeking the company of others. Loneliness can become a vicious circle whereby you don’t have significant others in your life so you feel lonely. That makes you feel bad and makes you want to hide yourself away and maybe fill your emptiness with escapism, such as TV or books or video games or even just sitting there doing nothing just feeling bad about your fate of being alone. You feel bad hence you avoid the company of others, but this then makes you feel more lonely and thereby worse. You feel that you are stuck in a vicious circle that you find it nearly impossible to get out of. Hence my first advice is to realize that getting out of loneliness will take some work (sometimes it may feel like a lot of work) and it will require you to leave what’s comfortable (staying hidden) behind and force yourself to do things and go to places where you can meet people. 
 
Secondly, remember that you are not the only one feeling lonely and feeling stuck. When you start to put yourself out there, it will initially challenge you in every way. You may come to events and workshops that interest you but where everyone else may seem to know each other already and you will initially feel even worse for being there. Initially. The trick is to get past that initial reaction of wanting to run out of there and to have a look around and find who else seems to be feeling as awkward and misplaced as you (I promise there are always others). This is your best chance to make an ally (and possibly a new best friend or significant someone). You know how paralyzing that feeling of loneliness could be so you also know that this person who is feeling just like you is probably struggling to make a move to meet someone as much as you are. Take the initiative and just say “hello” (I teach one off workshops on how to do this). Trust me, you’ll be happy you did. And if their reaction isn’t as friendly and warm as you would have wanted, take it as good practice and look for someone else to speak with, maybe even a group that is looking rather uncomfortable or in need of someone new. Be interested in others and be warm and open and you will eventually find yourself surrounded by people who want to get to know you.
 
And thirdly, you should realize that you can ask for help to deal with loneliness. The feeling can reach serious existential questions and might cause emotional outbursts which are not yours, but your body’s way of saying ‘hey wake up, and do something in order to make your temple feel better, cleaner and more light’.  If you feel you cannot manage your loneliness and nothing really elevates your mood, seek out some help. Try to be open to whoever you speak with and really listen and act on any advice offered. I would say that a majority of my clients these days come to work with me because that feeling of loneliness has grown too much to cope on their own. Being able to be genuinely honest with me and having me help them see that there is a way out just with a bit of action and changes in their life immediately releases that tension and helps them feel better and breathe more easily. It’s no surprise that my most popular talks these days are the ones I do about loneliness.To schedule a free 30 minute call with me about how you too can deal with loneliness, click here.

What do Brexit, budgeting and a “Stressed Out” hotline for Bankers have in common?

Hey there,
I bet you’re wondering about the headline for today’s newsletter! Well, recently I was invited to participate in a very interesting and innovative radio show for Fund Managers, Investors, Bankers and anyone else interested in the world of finance. It’s called The Naked Short Club and you can find the link to this last show here. I speak about Stress Management and the importance of sleep as the official responder for those dialing into the Distressed Hotline. The show was fantastic, really fun (just have a listen and hear Dr Stu’s great humour), while also highly informative (and how he asks just the right kind of questions to get the most poignant info from the show guests) and I’ll be coming onto future shows as well, probably once monthly to answer the stress and health-related questions of callers.
Have a question you’d like to ask ME about how to better manage your stress or how to improve your health overall, including better interactions with others (personal or professional) or with yourself? You can schedule a free 30 minute call with me here: https://juliakellerdiscoverycall.as.me/schedule.php

How to combat loneliness through interaction

Hey you,

Do you find yourself feeling lonely, whether because you’re on your own or in a relationship that leaves you feeling just as alone as if you were on your own.

Loneliness is a feeling that unfortunately does not necessarily mean singleness… One might be in a relationship but still feel lonely. In my line of work, I meet many people lost in a state of loneliness. In fact, loneliness is such an issue these days that a Minister for Loneliness was appointed some time back to deal with the Loneliness Epidemic. Loneliness kills more people than any other disease and is considered a real threat to healthy living. A talk I did on How to Conquer Loneliness was the most attended of any I’d done since beginning to help people to find and keep love.

Here is a video I did some time ago on the topic of loneliness.

My theory about loneliness is that because loneliness does not directly stem from lack of people surrounding you (although sometimes that is the sole issue), it is a fault in one’s interaction with oneself and the world, with oneself the people one has around them, as well as one’s interaction with oneself.

Loneliness can express itself as a feeling of being misunderstood, of having a hard time finding like minded friends, of a feeling of being dismissed or unimportant in the lives of others, of not having anyone to turn to with issues, etc. The issue is that the way you look at the world, that’s how the world looks back at you. So if you feel that no one out there could understand you, that’s what you’re likely to come across. Hence changing your outlook could in the end completely change your reality. Being friends with someone does not only mean being friendly; it means making an effort to express your own feelings because you care enough to share with them and listening to the feelings they share in return.

Watch my video here, get a few practical tips on how to combat loneliness, and if you have any questions schedule a call at the link below.

A Different Kind Of New Year

A different kind of New Year

For those of us in studies currently, or with school-aged kids, September often feels much more like a true New Year than January. After all, September is when the school year begins for most and that new school year pretty much always signifies a new kind of beginning in a level up from the level before and often with the necessity of making new friends and reigniting with those friends from before.

This is a different kind of New Year from the one we traditionally celebrate every year, but it is no less important. This New Year is less about a massive celebration and more about putting things in order. That feeling might be created because we reach the end of summer, thus feeling refreshed and relaxed, or maybe because the return to school after a summer holiday normally comes with both excitement and anxiety (as I remember myself and see constantly from my kids). Going back through history, geographically and anthropologically, it is also an important time for a new cycle in agronomy. In September all major harvests are finishing and a new kind of work is beginning: the important work of preparing for the following year’s harvest.

Interestingly enough the Jewish holiday of Rosh Hashana also comes at around this time of new beginnings and fresh starts. This holiday, along with Yom Kippur, is the most significant holiday for the Jewish community. While it signifies new year, this is in a very different light than the commercial New Year we celebrate at the end of December. Rosh Hashanah is all about new beginnings and new chances, but above all changing the fate for the coming year yourself through your deeds, your penance for previous actions and thoughts and your asking for forgiveness. The belief behind the Jewish New Year (Rosh Hashanah) is highly embedded in the human practices and humans are highly inter-connected with the cycle of nature. Therefore, for the modern man, celebrating Rosh Hashanah does not necessary have to be a Jewish celebration, but only  a away to stay tuned to world’s energy and interact with that energy.

It’s no surprise then that spiritual organisations, like the Kabbalah Centre, have as many non-Jews as Jews desiring to harness this spiritual energy for their betterment in the year to come. In fact the Kabbalah Centre can boast well-known members such as Madonna, Guy Ritchie, Ariana Grande and Marla Maples: all wanting to plug into the spiritual energy of the possibility for a the better year to come.

I have always been fascinated by the world of religions and how they adapt to modern times. What I find especially modern about this ancient ritual is the aspect of taking fate into your own hands. A main part of Rosh Hashanah, which just finished this year, is related to affecting your next years fate by prayer, being thoughtful, mindful and above all asking for forgiveness and realising that you need forgiveness.

With my clients I have found that many complexes we face, as significant hurdles in reaching the future we actually want, come from the inability to forgive ourselves or others. Forgiveness however is such a key act to moving on that it cannot be understated. To forgive yourself and others you need to acknowledge the actions that need to be forgiven and you need to let them go. Imagine the work that comes with really being able to “let go” of something that has plagued us for years perhaps, sometimes even decades. Now imagine truly and completely letting go of this something so much so that you can really move past it. How much lighter do you feel now? For some people, the past that they cannot move beyond keeps them stuck and unable to reach the future that they truly desire. But it is only through this act of forgiveness and letting go that we can truly move beyond and reach the life that we dream of.

Through forgiveness and letting go, you demonstrate that you are not just a reactionary being, but a proactive human who can decide and be held accountable to this decision. Taking that responsibility upon yourself relieves the strain of conflict you may have had with other people, because if you can forgive yourself, you see others in  that same vulnerable human light, enabling you to forgive them and love them at the same time for who they are.

Do you need help forgiving yourself or someone else? Book a free 30 minute Discovery Session with Julia on this link.

Are you with someone just because you feel lonely ?

According to some philosophers and psychologists, human life is often lived dictated by fears. One of the most fundamental fears (other than death) is loneliness. I definitely fall into the category of those who believe that happiness in life is found through our relationships with others. This relationship, however, is not just between you and a partner. A relationship exists on all levels of the universe: including friendship, family, community and even spirituality. Therefore, while I believe that Love is absolutely crucial for happiness, I am ready to argue that many relationships are formed not because of love, but because of fear of loneliness.

While that might be fine initially, what happens when the relationship is really not the fit you sought and that dreaded loneliness never really subsided but just becomes a different kind of loneliness: one where you feel stuck in a relationship that leaves you empty?

Below I’m sharing a video with you where I bring cases where my clients suffered from relationships.

It takes courage to admit that we fear loneliness, but the ones who do admit, end up rewarded by the best of relationships… It’s like the Tao old saying that goes something along these lines: If you are chasing the butterfly, it will always run away from you. As long you stop and hold your hand still, it might land on your hand gracefully…

Watch the Video Here