Stress: why you have it & how to cope better

Hi there!
 I am starting summer with a very special and necessary two episode series all about stress.
Remember those days when everything seems to be out of flow? You are commuting to work (for example) and all of the lights turn to red as if the universe is trying to make you late; or the tube is running with extra delays or you just miss your train and find the next one cancelled… You rush into a coffee shop to get the first coffee of the day, but the machine breaks down just as you are about to buy it, or there’s an extra slow new server on. You run to work and your boss, who usually comes a tad late, just today decided to come in exactly on time and sees you arriving late?
Yes this is a typical day when you are out of flow and you are in stress. What do you do? How can you help yourself to change that and can you? Watch my Part 1, of the two episode series on Stress (and look out for Part 2 next week): what it is, how to cope with it and how stress is even linked with sugar cravings!

Feel as if you are relate to this and need some help to help you handle stress so that it does not handle you? Book a free 30 min session with me to discuss your options.

Back to certainty !

Hey there,
Before I was a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist, I was a Transformational Love Coach. That was some years back when the Brexit vote had just happened and when we were then, much like now, in a state of uncertainty and flux over what would happen in our future.
The fact is that the only thing that really changed between then and now is that we’re some years older. Unfortunately, that certainty that we hoped the politicians would provide us is even less certain than it was when I first made this video. The learning, however, is the same: no one can provide us with certainty as life generally is uncertain. So the only way forward is through our own achievement. We must become our own anchor in a life where we can so easily float away on so many different levels, paths and agendas.
Being “well” in life relies on feeling grounded in ourselves even if not in the universe around us. Hence this video on how to deliver our own certainty is just as timely now to our overall well-being as it was then.

Wellness Series

Get ready for wellness!

For those of you who have been keeping up with my newsletters, you probably have noticed the move towards a focus on Wellness. Our 10 minutes Facebook live series is now called “10 Minutes to Wellness  (find ithere)  and we are currently launching a Wellness series of newsletters geared towards helping you and your loved ones to live healthier in the three key areas. These areas are Physical (feeling good in your body which should feel good and keep you healthy); Mental (ie: good mental health, managing stress, sleeping well, etc); and Emotional (feeling satisfied in your life and where you’re heading & having a good support network of friends, loved ones, community and even that someone special).

In the upcoming newsletters, I’ll be sharing with you what you need to stay “well” in life for longer life. This means what you need to look and feel great no matter what your age. I think in modern day living we surrender to the idea that getting older means allowing our bodies to crumble and to abandon us, our memories and minds to deteriorate and our chances for happy relationships to dwindle. Well in the course of my work, I’ve met so many people who proved this wrong that I know it isn’t true. I’ve met women and men who live healthy and medicine free well into their 80s, 90s and even beyond. My own great grandmother in fact lived almost until 102 and she wasn’t on any medication before she passed away just weeks before her birthday. My father, who’s over 60 is healthy, happy and works and lives as fully as a 30 year old. He and my mother have a happy successful marriage and a great network of family and friends. My father also is pursuing his life work which he loves and is passionate about and still studies and learns new techniques for his practice regularly. I recently met a woman who basically partied away her twenties, thirties and forties. It was only in her late fifties that she realized that she actually wanted to settle down and get married. Guess what, she married for the first time ever on her 65th birthday!

I constantly meet people who are healthy and look great well into their older years. Unfortunately, I also meet the opposite: people who are unhealthy even in their teens, twenties, thirties and forties. Cancer, heart disease, diabetes and obesity are claiming not just the elderly anymore. People are dying younger and feeling ill younger. Those in their teens are feeling already the effects of stress and not knowing how to manage it, as well as depression, anxiety and even insomnia. Therese aren’t just ailments of adults even anymore! So how do we manage life better and help our children to do so? Well with my current studies in Nutrition and Naturopathy, this has become my interest and my obsession. I will attempt, through my own learning, to reveal what I learn to you here. Stay tuned.

Want to be fit but hate the gym, watch this video!

Hey there!
As someone who’s totally into keeping fit and eating right these days (but for whom maybe this wasn’t always the case), I totally get that everyone has their own level of how much they are willing to do to keep themselves healthy and attractive and feeling great before it begins to feel like too much of a chore. Hey I get it! And I’m sure every one of us slips into bad habits at times (after all Christmas eating is just a few weeks behind us).
Well, now that it’s New Years and we’re filled with New Year’s resolutions we should hold onto at least some of those “get fit this year” plans. I do understand that getting fit, especially when the weather is cold and damp and the sky is grey or dark can feel too much like hard work if what’s required is going out after a long day to get to the gym. Believe me, I get you! That’s why I have some alternative suggestions of how to get fit without the need of using the gym at all (it’s much easier than you think).
Here’s a Facebook Live I did some time ago that was very popular on our page. If you like it, please do subscribe and like our page.
And if you want some help with getting up your willpower to succeed in getting into shape and eating right for 2019, you can book a free call with me on this link

If you’re struggling with Insomnia, here are some tips to get to sleep naturally

Some of you may have noticed that I’ve been on a pretty cool radio show from Resonance FM called “The Naked Short Club” several times already answering calls from distressed Bankers. Well, I’m sharing one from some time back with a question from a caller who suffers from Insomnia. As a Hypnotherapist, I often have clients coming to me asking me for help to get them to sleep again naturally. So I thought I’d share the answer to one of the questions that came up about how to tackle Insomnia naturally. Here are three quick tips to get you started.

Listen to “The Naked Short Club”

How to tackle insomnia naturally:

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1. Check your daily caffeine intake.

If insomnia is a regular issue, cut down on any caffeine (that includes coffee, black tea, chocolate and even green tea if you’re still struggling), especially after 3pm. Also, consider lowering how many cups you have a day. While a cup a day is probably not an issue (depending on your constitution of course) — and even 1-3 cups may be normal and find for many people — anything over six cups a day is definitely a sign that something needs to change. Remember that coffee increases your heart rate and basically mimics the stress response. You may be masking burned out adrenals with way too much caffeine and the end result may be trouble getting yourself down to sleep at night. This then creates a vicious circle as you then again need coffee the next day to keep you going and again find yourself having trouble sleeping, and so on. Need help cutting down and getting healthy again? Book a free call with me on the link below.
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2. Calm your mind for bedtime.

If you’ve cut down your caffeine intake, but still can’t sleep, the issue may be in your mind and you may need to learn to relax first. A calming meditation practice is a wonderful way to dose off. There are plenty of apps out there to help you zonk out at night, and even playlists on YouTube and Spotify. But if you’re still struggling or don’t know how to get started, think about seeking out a Hypnotherapist to help you get to sleep. To book a free 30 minute call with me about how I can help, click on the link below.
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3. Keep to a working bedtime routine.

A healthy bedtime routine isn’t just for kids anymore. If you want to get to sleep easier each evening, stick to a relaxing routine at bedtime. Eliminate anything that keeps you awake, such as late-night eating and even evening exercise or showers (opt for a calming bath instead). Also eliminate late night technology which has been shown to disturb sleep. And for a really nice bedtime routine, try adding lavender essential oil or crushed flowers to your evening bath. It’s no surprise that lavender is added to so many children’s products, as it’s known for its’ calming properties. It works for adults too, so if you’re struggling, try it (yes you guys too!).

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Want to be fit but hate the gym? Watch this video.

As someone who’s three main areas of focus working with clients are Wellness, Confidence & Connection, you can bet that I have quite a lot to say about getting healthy and fit. In fact, the other day, I was at a bar and met some random people who asked me about what I do. When I told them, they very excitedly (and mistakenly) asked about how they too can get more healthy. Well, as I’m studying Nutrition these days and pretty obsessed with being fit, it may not have been the best timing to ask me such a question, as I definitely have quite a lot to say on the topic.
But the reason I’m writing this is to address one of the questions that one of these people asked me: “I want to be fit, but I really hate going to the gym. How do I do what’s good for my body while also not having to do what I hate?” Well, if you’re reading this right now, firstly let me apologize for all of the extra information about what you shouldn’t be eating and doing (smoking, partying too hard every night, eating food that’s highly processed and full of sugar, drinking coke) that you had to sit through that evening. To make up for it, here’s part of the answer to your question about how you can get more fit without having to hit the gym. (You’re welcome!) ;->
If you need more help, by the way, staying fit and eating better, you can schedule a free call with me on the link below to find out how I can help you too to look and feel great.

How much fruit and vegetables should you actually eat for health? Find out here!

As someone who helps clients with towards peak Mind-Body, Personal & Professional Interactions and who is studying both Nutrition and Naturopathy, I often get asked by clients who want to be more healthy (or who are trying to slim down), what the ideal number of fruits and vegetables that they should eat is.
Well, up to now, the accepted idea was that “five a day” was the healthy ideal. In fact, we often see written on products being sold all over the place the message “one of your five a day”, so it’s no surprise that we assume that the “five a day” (meaning five portions a day of fruits and vegetables — mainly veggies by the way) is accurate and complete. So you can imagine my surprise to find a study published on the NHS website no less claiming that actually what we need to be eating is closer to “ten a day” to ensure our healthy survival and to significantly cut our chances of serious illnesses leading to premature aging or death. The main surprise, however, was that this study was more than a year old, but yet not much had changed in our beliefs around how many fruits and vegetables we should be eating daily. You can find the NHS article below.

https://www.nhs.uk/news/food-and-diet/five-a-day-of-fruit-and-veg-is-good-but-10-is-better/

For those who want to understand a bit more around what a “portion” actually is, the study states that we are safe with 800g of fruit and vegetables (concentrate on the vegetables) eaten daily. Portion size explanations for different fruit and vegetable sources can be found here:
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/5-a-day-portion-sizes/

What do Brexit, budgeting and a “Stressed Out” hotline for Bankers have in common?

Hey there,
I bet you’re wondering about the headline for today’s newsletter! Well, recently I was invited to participate in a very interesting and innovative radio show for Fund Managers, Investors, Bankers and anyone else interested in the world of finance. It’s called The Naked Short Club and you can find the link to this last show here. I speak about Stress Management and the importance of sleep as the official responder for those dialing into the Distressed Hotline. The show was fantastic, really fun (just have a listen and hear Dr Stu’s great humour), while also highly informative (and how he asks just the right kind of questions to get the most poignant info from the show guests) and I’ll be coming onto future shows as well, probably once monthly to answer the stress and health-related questions of callers.
Have a question you’d like to ask ME about how to better manage your stress or how to improve your health overall, including better interactions with others (personal or professional) or with yourself? You can schedule a free 30 minute call with me here: https://juliakellerdiscoverycall.as.me/schedule.php

How to combat loneliness through interaction

Hey you,

Do you find yourself feeling lonely, whether because you’re on your own or in a relationship that leaves you feeling just as alone as if you were on your own.

Loneliness is a feeling that unfortunately does not necessarily mean singleness… One might be in a relationship but still feel lonely. In my line of work, I meet many people lost in a state of loneliness. In fact, loneliness is such an issue these days that a Minister for Loneliness was appointed some time back to deal with the Loneliness Epidemic. Loneliness kills more people than any other disease and is considered a real threat to healthy living. A talk I did on How to Conquer Loneliness was the most attended of any I’d done since beginning to help people to find and keep love.

Here is a video I did some time ago on the topic of loneliness.

My theory about loneliness is that because loneliness does not directly stem from lack of people surrounding you (although sometimes that is the sole issue), it is a fault in one’s interaction with oneself and the world, with oneself the people one has around them, as well as one’s interaction with oneself.

Loneliness can express itself as a feeling of being misunderstood, of having a hard time finding like minded friends, of a feeling of being dismissed or unimportant in the lives of others, of not having anyone to turn to with issues, etc. The issue is that the way you look at the world, that’s how the world looks back at you. So if you feel that no one out there could understand you, that’s what you’re likely to come across. Hence changing your outlook could in the end completely change your reality. Being friends with someone does not only mean being friendly; it means making an effort to express your own feelings because you care enough to share with them and listening to the feelings they share in return.

Watch my video here, get a few practical tips on how to combat loneliness, and if you have any questions schedule a call at the link below.

What Experts Say About Cancer Prevention

Hi there!

Recently, I had the pleasure of interviewing Pragna, an incredible woman who works with Cancer patients through complementary care. If you didn’t have a chance to see the video with Pragna as to how to best survive and avoid Cancer, you can watch it here.

Today, I bring you two articles I found that talk about how to keep Cancer away through diet and lifestyle changes. Cancer is a disease that, according to Cancer  Research, will affect one out of every two people, which is a maddening statistic.

Timing of Dinner and Bedtime
Tied to Increased Cancer Risk

 

Advances in Cancer Prevention

It is also noted that for half of the people who get Cancer, it is completely preventable by changing lifestyle and diet. So isn’t it worth trying? Now studying BioMedicine, in preparation for the degree in Naturopathic Nutrition, I’ve come to realise just how much we can do to ensure that our health is optimal at any point in our lives. It is never too late to change and live healthier, cleaner lives. If you would like some help with managing your diet, your weight, your stress or your lifestyle, book a free call with Julia on the link below.

If you would like more help to live a healthier life, book a call with Julia on the link below.

Interview With Pragna – Complimentary Cancer Care Therapist

Hi there!
Recently I interviewed an incredible woman I met while doing the Best You Expo this year. She has changed her life and her career to work with patients who are suffering from Cancer as a complementary care therapist. She has also lived in a family where two close family members were stricken with the disease. Here, her observations on why some surpass Cancer and others are taken by it and how we can do what’s necessary to keep Cancer at bay.

If you would like more help to live a healthier life, book a call with Julia on the link below.

Sunscreen or not to Sunscreen?

Hi everyone,

It’s summertime and the weather is still fantastic, so it’s a great time to enjoy the sunshine. So today’s video is about suncare. We’ve obviously read quite a lot about protecting our skin from the sun, but we’ve also read about the health benefits of Vitamin D. So should we use sunscreen or shouldn’t we? Find out in the video below.

Need help taking better care of your skin from the inside out and the outside in? Talk to Julia by booking your free call today using the link below.

Schedule a free introductory call here

How Stefani cured her psoriasis and lost 6 kilos

Hey you,

Your body is your temple, your body is your home, your body is your way towards expressing who you are. In ancient Greek times, being physically fit was considered as impressive as being intelligent. The belief was that in a beautiful body lives a beautiful soul. This may sound unjust. After all, we are in fact so much more than just our bodies and I do agree with the often used expression: “Don’t judge a book by its’ cover”. Superficially judging others is not only unfair, but it also leaves us missing who they really are below the surface. That said, we know that the same Greeks who held this belief were actually a profound, deep-thinking people.

Plato is a great example of someone who believed that keeping mind AND body in shape was deeply important. While one of the greatest philosophers of any time, he also was one of the greatest Olympian champions — and to be an Olympian champion in Greece, you had to be fit!

In ancient Greece, taking care of one’s body was perceived as a sign of intelligence because your body is your vehicle in life. Yes, you, that someone inside, is the driver, but if your car breaks down, you cannot go very far. It is all about balance; you give as much attention to inner as to outer. You have a responsibility to your body to nurture it. Responsible people reflect that responsibility to their bodies as well. It should not become your sole occupation, but it should be one of your priorities.

Hence in this mood of health, I decided to share an interview I did with a very dear person to be, who has been through her share of skin health issues, telling us how she dealt with them and how your body can become holier by simply attending to your nutrition.

Need a Change? Will Greenhouse – change coach to the rescue

Will Greenhouse – Change Coach to the rescue 

As you may already know, I’m a strong believer in collaboration and hence reach out to work together with quite a few other therapists and practitioners, especially those on the cutting edge of their field or doing something particularly interesting and that’s you all can benefit from. So it is with great delight that I introduce you to Will Greenhouse: a unique this coach with a truly original work title: “Change Coach”.

Since the start of my own practice some years back, collaboration with other therapists and coaches has always been an integral part of our ethos and has led to incredible connections, friendships and benefits for my clients. I greatly enjoy speaking with these amazing practitioners, hearing their stories and providing my readers with the knowledge of the vast variety of coaching services that I am fortunate enough to come in contact with. Often these are enriching and life changing. Sometimes, in fact, we are not even aware of an issue we are faced with day to day until someone else eloquently articulates it.

William Greenhouse is one such person. He uses a fascinating technique to swiftly encourage change in his clients. Watch him describe what he does in the video below.

” Your unconscious mind runs everything, all your bodily functions, from regulating your heartbeat to managing your immune system, processing all the information that comes in through your senses and much more. Sometimes it is advantageous to communicate directly with it”
~ Will Greenhouse

Benefits of the holy chocolate: how to enjoy Easter chocolate without jeopardising your weight

As much as I enjoy holidays (of course who doesn’t!) I often dread the return to normal life with extra weight gain from too much enjoyment. Whether we go away for the holidays or not, the celebration of holidays is strongly associated with the pleasure of eating and that often carries with it weight gain. One such holiday, associated with yummy chocolate sweets, is just around the corner: Easter, accompanied with its’ entourage of Easter chocolate eggs and what nots…
So if you’re “forced” to eat chocolate anyway, why not eat it wisely and gain its’ many secret benefits rather than suffer with the negatives of weight gain.

1)Dark chocolate is an antioxidant! 

Dark chocolate is loaded with organic compounds that are biologically active and function as antioxidants. These include polyphenols, flavanols, catechins, among others.

One study we looked at showed that cocoa and dark chocolate contained more antioxidant activity, polyphenols and flavanols than other fruits that were tested, including blueberries and Acai berries (both known for their high antioxidant activity). If you don’t know what the fuss about antioxidants really is: they are what’s needed to fight against free radicals which basically damage your cells. Hence they are protect you skin and fight the damage in your body. Of course our body produces both the free radicals and the antioxidants if left to its own devices. But stress, unhappiness, exposure to free radicals in the environment (pollution, unprotected sun, radiation, etc) and a poor diet basically leave our body at risk for more free radicals and fewer antioxidants which means problems with body and skin, diseases, illnesses, etc. A good, healthy diet and positive stress management helps us to produce more antioxidants to help match the free radicals.

2) Chocolate is a diet friendly food. Apparently dark chocolate (of a high enough percentage) can even suppress your cravings, which could help with healthy weight management.

Just to be clear normal packaged chocolate sweets and candy are very unhealthy and have little or no health benefits! They are packed with sugar, calories and have no nutritional value! Dark chocolate on the other hand is a great diet food because it “can satisfy your food cravings and sweet tooth. A study found that dark chocolate is more filling than milk chocolate, and it can help to reduce your cravings for fatty, sweet and salty foods. It doesn’t matter if you’re craving potato chips, tacos, or Jellybeans–a bit of dark chocolate (70% or more) will help to shut down your cravings.” (https://www.positivehealthwellness.com/diet-nutrition/12-proven-benefits-dark-chocolate-no-8-best/

3) Chocolate increases your brain function.

Now that’s a special treat for all of you students out there, or just anyone who wants a good, functioning brain! Have you noticed that when you study hard or are engaged in work that demands a lot of brain activity, you find yourself craving sugar and chocolate? Your body is clever and knows to send you signals to crave the substances that can help your brain to re-boot “your brain, like all other parts of your body, requires oxygen and nutrients to survive and thrive. Dark chocolate helps to increase circulation and produce more red blood cells, which help your body to send more oxygen and nutrients to your brain”. Now that’s pretty clever, isn’t it!
So if you work in a intensive environment, or are intensively studying, have a bit of dark chocolate lying around and give your brain a break for a while nurturing its’ craving in a healthy way.
Ways to eat dark chocolate
Obviously not everyone enjoys dark chocolate, but considering the health benefits, isn’t it a taste that should to be acquired? We are used to highly sweetened, manufactured desserts that corrupted our natural taste buds. Dark chocolate is not sweet in the conventional sense, yet it is a nutritious and filling product that can easily work as a desert. Below a few ways in which I enjoy dark chocolate:
1) Shave 99% (really healthy) dark chocolate onto my morning yogurt bowl with fruits and home made granola.
 2) Simply take a bite of a dark chocolate with coffee or tea.
3) Sweetened with a bit of fresh or dried  fruits and raw or Manuka honey.
4) Baked into a dark chocolate gluten free brownie.
5) On of my PA’s favourite desert is also super nutritious: avocado and black chocolate mousse. It is so rich in flavour and texture you will never be able to tell that it is free from dairy! Check out the recipe here .
A side note:It’s always better to get good quality dark chocolate and work with, even if you mix raw honey with it for sweetness, rather than buying milk chocolate or processed chocolate of any kind (most commercial chocolate companies). Milk chocolate is highly processed and contains many harmful substances… Of course you can find expensive good milk chocolate but it will never be as nutritious for you as black chocolate is.

What is Holistic Therapy?

As some of you following my work and my newsletters may know, my business is changing significantly. For one, I’m not only calling myself a Love Coach but am now a Holistic Therapist too. You may be wondering what exactly this means and how this changes things with what I do. Well the best way to explain this seems to be by video. So to understand better what I mean by Holistic Therapist and how I can now help you better to reach your goals, click on the video below. 

Have more questions about how exactly I can help you, book a free 30 minute call with me here

One thing slim women do that overweight women don’t

If you’ve been trying to lose weight and it hasn’t been working for you, it could be because of your diet, or it could be due to your lifestyle or just a general lack of fitness. But if you’ve tried quite a few things and are still struggling, then you may be missing this one key element that slim people already do naturally.
If weight management is an issue for you, watch this video I did on Facebook Live. Once you’ve watched it, if you feel you’d like some help to help you slim down, you may want to join my 8 week Weight Management program combining Hypnotherapy with NLP and Wellness Coaching to ensure you reach your weight goals. Need more information, book your free 30 minute call with me here

Watch The Video 

One thing slim women do that overweight women don't

Waist Ration & Brain: Is there a connection? Legitimate explanation to the strange (seemingly unfair) claim

Hey you,
Are you struggling to find the motivation to eat healthy? Need more reason to keep fit? Well apparently having a good waist-hip ratio isn’t just about being attractive; it actually determines your brain function in later years as well. Research states that the bigger your waist (as compared to your hips), the smaller the ability of your brain. That’s right, if it wasn’t already a good reason to exercise and eat right: in order to avoid obesity, diabetes, cancer, heart disease, etc; apparently being unfit and having a large waist circumference actually also predisposes you to brain issues such as Alzheimer’s, poor memory and even depression. And it also predisposes you to premature ageing (and looking as if you’ve prematurely aged). The ideal waist-hip ratio for beauty is around .74, which happens to also correspond with better health.
Although a claim that slim people have better brain function may sound unfair as well as a predicament that has the potential to set off yet unseen judgments, and although we must of course keep in mind body type which also predetermines body shape and curves, there is actually legitimate explanation to this strange (somewhat unfair) claim.
Dr Perlmutter, in his book “the Grain Brain” claims that waist ratio determines our brain function. Yes this is what he says, providing a clear explanation. There are two important things to take into consideration: firstly the matter of “waist”; and secondly that of “ratio”. The importance of waist as opposed to certain other parts of the body, is key. The waist is where many of our delicate organs are located. It is not an accident that the phrase refers to waist circumference and not to the overall slimness of a person.
Dr Perlmutter also claims in the same book that gluten, sugar and carbs can lead to fatal disease and damages to our brain. The food we eat and allow to digest and travel through our gut has a huge effect on the overall system of our body and especially on brain function. Just because our brain is not located in the stomach does not mean it is not affected by the stomach or the belly area.
Optimal health, therefore, comprises of the following: healthy food and healthy organs doing their job well. What we ingest is key in this equation because it has the power to dull our organs and stop our brain from functioning optimally. In order for our precious organs to function properly, they need to work to the best of their ability: free of extra weight, bacteria, inflammation etc… It’s simple really: you can walk up the stairs far easier only carrying yourself than if you had to carry your younger sister or brother with you as well. Therefore, having healthy and lean tissue around the organs is necessary for the healthy function of the organs and in also the healthy function of the brain! The waist area — including the heart, lungs, abdomen, etc have to stay lean and healthy whereas some extra pounds on our thighs or bum might not lead to anything disastrous. Hence the lean waist helping our brain function better. It is not just that lean waist is healthier because it looks nice to some… no it is because it holds all of our precious organs and we need to make a nice and habitable environment for the organs to thrive.
Secondly, about the ratio: If you are naturally a bigger person, no one expects you to have a unreasonably thin waist no matter how much you exercise and starve. You should never starve!  While it is about the waist size, it is NOT ABOUT THE WAIST SIZE per se. Everything is in moderation to yourself. However, having said this, some people, especially women have bodies that are inclined to gain wait around the waist area. These women unfortunately might have to struggle more to burn that fat around the organs. I’m one of them, by the way, and while one nice repercussion is naturally bigger breasts, it also means more work to maintain the healthy waist-hip ratio. When it comes to health unfortunately, half of it is what we are born with, therefore we always have to work with what we have.
I, for example, take care to maintain a healthy ratio through what I eat and regular exercise, despite having had two kids (which definitely makes the work of maintaining a slim waist more challenging). Many answers to our weight problems come from little daily habits that our clever minds automatically disregard as problematic. For example, what one biscuit a day can do… or one unhealthy chocolate bar after a super healthy salad lunch, if taken regularly can actually work against us. Eating very fast, or snacking before lunch as well. Basically there are a lot of of little habits that one might not be able to register in themselves… Therefore, it is important to really observe how one lives, eating patterns and all the small little things one does in order to lose weight or gain weight for that matter consciously and not through vain diets.
Need more evidence to back this theory, check out this article in the Independent following some research on waist-hip ratio: http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/health-what-a-man-cant-resist-the-perfect-waist-hip-ratio-forget-about-breasts-says-jerome-burne-its-1440859.html

Want to know how to slim down ASAP and avoid the downward spiral of your brain along with your body? Book your free 30 minute call with Julia Keller now”

A reason why gluttony is one of the deadly sins

Some time ago I was forced to change my diet – radically. I have never been a junk food addict, and I stay far away from sugary fizzy water that pretends to be a drink. But I have to admit that even I was combatting my own urges of crisps and a good dessert from now and then. But the main reason that I watched my diet then was to avoid weight gain. Knowing better what I needed in my life than even I do, as the universe always does, it sent me a health problem that opened my eyes not only to my own occasionally harmful habits, but to an entirely another sea of problems that threaten the well being of so many: food addiction – or rather society’s overall predilection towards food (and drink) that is temporarily filling and tasty, but that actually is really not good for you. What does any of this have to do with love coaching, you may ask? Actually, loads. It has become a common issue among my clients that a malnourished heart often leads to the abuse of food and that, in return, this lack of care for their body (and skin) then leads to them looking worse, which then heightens their sense of worthlessness.

Hello my dearest Geminis,

I have to admit that I have, at times, been somewhat dismissive of the issue, thinking that overeating was a simply due to the lack of a strong will; in my own life, I have very much used “mind over manner” to accomplish so many goals that I didn’t always understand why others also couldn’t do the same. This changed, however, when I began to think deeper and to observe people around me soon realising that it was not only overeating that was an issue but also unhealthy eating habits developed partially due to lack of education of what the right foods to eat are, and partially due to a lack of willpower to stick to regimes that initially are difficult and showcase little value. I began to explore the reasoning behind the various attitudes towards the food we eat.

The truth is, I consider myself rather a “foodie” and I too find great pleasure in food that tastes great. Often food habits are created because of the seeking of great flavours (as was in my case) and an uneducated palate may find those flavours in foods that are more manufactured than true. Hey I too once loved McDonald’s. And even now when I write, the thought of a McDonald’s Big Mac still makes me salivate a bit. But I also now know exactly what I’m ingesting when I allow myself to eat it and how harmful that one Big Mac is to my skin, my waistline, my energy level, etc. But I may still choose to eat that Big Mac that one time I’m on a highway and McDonald’s is that one place at the rest area; and I will probably even enjoy it. The idea is to know what is in the food we eat and how it will affect us and our bodies and to make choices based on being informed about that food. The idea is also to let ourselves savour our food and enjoy how it tastes, smells and feels afterwards and to use food as nourishment and even pleasure; not as a way to stuff ourselves or to drown our woes.

Food and eating is not a substitute for internal happiness. It is a source of pleasure, of course; but there are other sources of pleasure too: reading, watching a film, making love, hanging out with friends, taking long walks, exercise and so many more interesting ways to occupy our time. The issue with food today is that often we don’t actually know what we’re eating, even if we think we do, so what we seem to like as flavours to make our food tasty is sometimes (especially with highly-processed food) actually causing our body short and long-term harm. It is no surprise, therefore, that so many modern-day diseases actually have their roots in poor diet or lifestyle choices.

The deeper I searched the more I realised that the junk food addiction and over-eating issue has deeper roots than simply trying to fill an enlarged stomach. After all, gluttony is one the seven deadliest sins, and not because it makes you fat but because it kills your livelihood. Gluttony is not about eating bad food but is rather about getting addicted to it to such an extent that it dulls your senses and mind and stops you from focusing on more important areas of life. The overeating not only has immediate physical effects (we have all experienced a dinner party after which even breathing seems hard because we just ate way too much), but that intake of excess substances (which nowadays we don’t always know what they contain) dulls our mind and saps our energy as well. The internal hole that we are trying to fill with food will never be able to be filled with this food. But the added chemicals and our own depleted sense of happiness keeps us going back to it, as it is more accessible and easier to get than the actual sense of happiness that we crave. It is the easy solution. Therefore I deiced to to really work on it, understand the issue, having seen how overeating and also being unhappy with one’s physical appearance affects one’s love life, I now offer, as one of my services for those who need it, hypnotherapy for weight management (which of course includes looking into eating better and finding other sources of happiness).

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Do you feel stuck in a negative eating pattern and unsure how to change it? Do you wish that you can be healthier and look after yourself better but unsure where and how to begin? Is your self esteem affected by a negative self-image that you wish you can change? Do you believe your life would be much better if you only looked different or had a different figure or body type?

Well if you thought “yes” to any of these questions, take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Many people, especially women, suffer from lack of self confidence — in one way or another — and very often related to self-image. One of the most prominent reasons for low self esteem and poor self image is connected to your feelings about your body, your figure, or your weight.

Many of my clients, for instance, turn to food for comfort after a bad day or when feeling lonely and then feel bad about it afterwards as they watch their efforts at controlling their weight deteriorate. “What can one harmless piece of chocolate do with my beloved cup of coffee,” they tell themselves at the moment. Or something like, “So what if I make it a junk food day today, I deserve it after the crapy day I’ve had”! Or how about, “I’ve been exercising for ages but still haven’t lost any weight, so screw it, I’m having a bowl of pasta”. And there are many more. Does this resonate? From my experience, many people (women especially) turn to food to temporarily suffocate feelings of loneliness and unhappiness.

Unfortunately, clever advertising has caught onto this tendency and is using it against us for the benefit of raising sales of well-known food vendors. The significant rise in vendors means that we are constantly bombarded with advertising telling us that we will feel good if we just eat or drink some product or other. This makes resisting temptation that much more difficult and challenging on a regular basis (even if also more worthwhile). While some 20-30 years ago there was one big chocolate brand advertising its’ scrumptious happiness-giving chocolate, these days we have to endure over a dozen different chocolate brands trying to sell us their product in the most attractive way, normally using our lack of willpower against us to lure us to purchase their product. And let’s not forget the other unhealthy temptations, such as junk food, fast food, soda, coffee, alcohol, etc.

The desire for our purchase has now become a battleground where we have to fight temptation constantly in order to keep our figures and maintain our ideal weight without getting lured into wasting money on so many easily-available unhealthy options. When you pass Starbucks and feel proud resisting that amazing chocolate frappe, a few steps further you encounter Nero’s, Costa, Pret a Manger, McDonald’s… Sometimes, if your willpower and your reason for fighting isn’t strong enough, the battle of resistance becomes too tiring and it’s easier to give in than to hold out… even if that means setting yourself back in your body image goals and feeling terrible about yourself afterwards.

I too have undergone this battle many times in my life and I also know how bad it feels to lose and how good it feels to win. All of my work as a Love Coach begins with helping clients to love themselves better and to feel empowered enough to achieve the life and love situation that they really want. Because I am passionate about helping my clients on the deepest levels, and because I am constantly pursuing learning better and better ways to do this, I embarked on a course to study Hypnotherapy: the fastest method to work with nốt just the conscious mind, but also the subconscious one. Very quickly I saw that weight management and confidence and self-esteem work were areas most crucial to a vast majority of my clients, even before they were ready to find love.

For this reason, I’ve decided to focus on those areas specifically for my hypnotherapy certification project, to run a project tackling precisely this issue of how a negative body image can adversely affect our self esteem. I already use hypnotherapy and NLP successfully to help my clients to improve their self confidence and now I am beginning to use it to help clients with weight management, thereby significantly improving their self esteem as their outwardly image improves. Hypnotherapy is not magic (though the results my clients have seen have often been quite magical); it is simply a method of rewiring your brain to break the old and unhealthy habits and to exchange them for the healthy habits that you actually want and that really serve you.

At the moment, I’m looking for 2-3 more clients who want help to reach their ideal weight, figure, or size to participate in my study looking to demonstrate a parallel between feeling better about yourself physically (by being closer to your physical ideal), when you like the way you look better, and feeling better about yourself overall, thereby having a better self-confidence. If you would like to be one of these few clients participating, schedule a free call with me here to discuss if you are appropriate for this study.